tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post1671551004698424973..comments2024-03-16T14:18:11.330-04:00Comments on peaceful parenting: Mother-Baby SeparationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger117125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-90730244245412787182015-12-12T18:40:20.818-05:002015-12-12T18:40:20.818-05:00Would it be a bad thing if ur child stays with one...Would it be a bad thing if ur child stays with one parent for a month and the other the next and swip swop months??? Now the baby is only 19 monthsAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16804875193964133522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-55985988922482641782015-12-12T05:21:18.613-05:002015-12-12T05:21:18.613-05:00My 11 mth old breast fed son was parentslly kidnap...My 11 mth old breast fed son was parentslly kidnapped by his Dad and I haven't seen my baby for 60 days . We had our first court hearing but he is lying that I am suicidal and will kill my son ( I have in my custody three teens 17.15.13) and the judge said come back to Cairns ( he's 3600 kms away ) and let the mother have visitation until the. Court hears the matter as his affidavit was Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02922721524463325732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-53492562801651989102015-07-05T07:17:19.442-04:002015-07-05T07:17:19.442-04:00Although I understand the sentiment behind this ar...Although I understand the sentiment behind this article, I have to say I agree with the other comments that essentially support the old adage "it takes a village to raise a child". A mother and child may have the closest, most interdependent relationship, but it cannot be to the exclusion of all other close, trusting relationships for the child. A mother who spends the majority of her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-41878840323133532722015-06-24T07:16:08.832-04:002015-06-24T07:16:08.832-04:00Dear Kelly!
I am so grateful to you, for making t...Dear Kelly!<br /><br />I am so grateful to you, for making the time to write this response! That was the best and the closes to heart thing I've ever heard on the topic.<br /><br />You have a very holistic view of the situation. <br /><br />I am a young mother of a two and a half year old. I have chosen to work, because my work makes me complete, gives me a feeling of growth and give great Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-57964532451681137092013-03-25T11:16:38.161-04:002013-03-25T11:16:38.161-04:00Well, that seems to be the simple solution to the ...Well, that seems to be the simple solution to the issue. But I just don't believe that Dr. Wootan is recommending to space children further apart as a solution. He seems to be an advocate for natural parenting; most couples will conceive children less than three years apart by utilizing natural child spacing methods.Mrs. Lainezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00462862382002604366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-54478434097012123412013-03-20T06:09:22.883-04:002013-03-20T06:09:22.883-04:00i do that too. My daughter is 34 months old. I sti...i do that too. My daughter is 34 months old. I still nurse her on demand --this has decreased significantly--and we co-sleep. we carried her at the back until she was sixteen months old --no stroller. We had a queen size bed. Six months ago, we decided to buy a king size rather than buying a separate bed for her. I take her to family place, to programs where parent participation is required, to Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02707023993249829304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-61458319266956468702013-03-02T21:39:30.438-05:002013-03-02T21:39:30.438-05:00This is one reason our children are spaced 4 years...This is one reason our children are spaced 4 years apart - and we also have a large family. :) Each little one receives the time with mom that s/he needs, and of course I take breaks for 1-3 hours here and there as needed (we all need these!) but I am available to my babies when they are babies, and none are forced out of babyhood faster than they naturally progress into independent little Shelleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-54785784257199077852013-02-25T12:39:09.082-05:002013-02-25T12:39:09.082-05:00I like this article, but now I'm having a hard...I like this article, but now I'm having a hard time figuring out just how I can take occasional, short breaks from mothering without making my daughter suffer. She's 14.5 months old, and I'm expecting another baby in a few months. I haven't left her at all so far; she's quite securely attached to me. She also has strong bonds with her dad and great-grandmother. My husband Mrs. Lainezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00462862382002604366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-1630270425883724372013-01-28T00:49:27.478-05:002013-01-28T00:49:27.478-05:00This is a great and TRUE article. Let me tell you ...This is a great and TRUE article. Let me tell you why. I'm a 52 year old woman who is currently doing research as to why my emotional health has been horrible my entire adult life. I've never been able to form meaningful friendships or relationships. I had difficulty coping with authority on the job, and I have struggled endlessly to control a rage issue, which till now I never understoodAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-10428990871051245182012-08-11T03:47:25.652-04:002012-08-11T03:47:25.652-04:00great blog... and I would also add that mothers sh...great blog... and I would also add that mothers should be encouraged/invited and allowed to stay with their babies 24/7 in neonatal intensive care unitsDonnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-22112319630891202292012-07-21T04:18:48.296-04:002012-07-21T04:18:48.296-04:00I think it goes beyond luxuries and lifestyles, so...I think it goes beyond luxuries and lifestyles, some people just know how to live like that and only that, and sometimes even, if one of the parents doesn't work they have to give up their luxurious house because they can't pay it. A couple whos worked hard for all they have desired shouldn't be shamed and guilted on because they want to keep it while at the same time, having a child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-39141914541180263732012-07-17T21:49:01.087-04:002012-07-17T21:49:01.087-04:00I was thinking the same thing. In order for a Mom ...I was thinking the same thing. In order for a Mom to be at her best Her mental health has to be intact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-69080712000069260472012-07-17T13:40:20.925-04:002012-07-17T13:40:20.925-04:00I totally agree with you. I'm a SAHM and we ar...I totally agree with you. I'm a SAHM and we are very happy, but I know a friend who wanted to go back to work after a month of her maternal leave because it was easier working than to tend to the baby, even though she does have enough money to live comfortably without having to work, I think it's sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-80886910010322091562012-07-17T06:40:20.453-04:002012-07-17T06:40:20.453-04:00I love Robyn's comment above! This was a great...I love Robyn's comment above! This was a great article, in that it stated the facts beautifully without criticsm. With that said I am a working mom and had to go back out to work after 7 weeks. <br /><br />I agree 100% with moms needing to be there for their kids, however you need to not be so glib about people's financial situations. You don't which family is one emergency away from Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-79808783079237649772012-07-17T00:39:39.681-04:002012-07-17T00:39:39.681-04:00Iloved this article. I caught quite an earful whe...Iloved this article. I caught quite an earful when I left my career to stay home. People kept telling me I would lose myself. My son is 15 months old. I fell like now and the next few years are the only time I have any real time to keep him happy in my space. Once he's is school, he's in someone else's universe. Right now, we are in our own special bubble and he is the happiest, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-12261175725192575452012-07-17T00:26:36.611-04:002012-07-17T00:26:36.611-04:00What happens if you have joint custody of a child ...What happens if you have joint custody of a child under 36 months. I only have my son 3 and half days every week. Is it going to damage him emotionally?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-82481650027919563252012-05-08T03:19:41.387-04:002012-05-08T03:19:41.387-04:00Mrs. Fed up at the Middle East!
I have to say aft...Mrs. Fed up at the Middle East!<br /><br />I have to say after reading this article it gives me a great relief that there was nothing wrong with my decision to quit at work and decided to be home with my 19 month old daughter. She is gorgeous, adorable, sweet and she is really our very precious one and only. I was working on a very huge chain hotel industry in the Middle East called Jumeirah Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-53046991663682161392011-11-08T09:40:43.101-05:002011-11-08T09:40:43.101-05:00I have to disagree with the complete lack of a con...I have to disagree with the complete lack of a concept of time in children under 36 mos. My daughter is 27 mos and I'm a full time professional student, and I work part time. My days range from 4 hours to 16 hours and my husband stays home with our kids. Every morning before I leave I hug and kiss my daughter and tell her "I'll see you for lunch" or "I'll see you EHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032781393203682925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-45531969472178887322011-11-08T01:26:58.163-05:002011-11-08T01:26:58.163-05:00I would love nothing more than to be able to stay ...I would love nothing more than to be able to stay with my daughter but I know that I am going to HAVE to go back to work when she is 9 months old - we are going to need the money and I cannot give up my job. We are a 2 parent family but I am the key earner as a teacher and my husband, who is not entitled to any UK benefits as he is Indian, can get a poorly paid part-time job at best so there is Snookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07493541549146088331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-27325539630950433812011-10-06T06:50:28.100-04:002011-10-06T06:50:28.100-04:00Anon - the fact is that when your child's need...Anon - the fact is that when your child's needs ARE being met she is a joy. When she interrupts you - she is displaying a need & if you respond to that need (be in nursing, play, cuddles, whatever) I am sure she responds delightfully. I have a Ds a few months older than yours & an older one as well...and I can say they are not always delightful BUT when I am responding to their needAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-91566754335719410472011-10-06T00:20:41.176-04:002011-10-06T00:20:41.176-04:00I have a question about something you mentioned in...I have a question about something you mentioned in your article. I am a single mom of an 18 month old and I am going to college. I am still breastfeeding her and we co-sleep. There was one sentence that said that since the child's needs are always being met then the child will always be a pleasure to be around and essentially better behaved. Although I am with my child any moment that I am Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-83976007116342611662011-10-05T10:22:14.565-04:002011-10-05T10:22:14.565-04:00While I agree with the premise, you are leaving ou...While I agree with the premise, you are leaving out the women who serve our country in the armed forces and do NOT have a choice about leaving to go back to work at 6 weeks. They cannot simply just tell their employer (the DoD) that they quit. And before people jump in and say "well maybe she shouldn't have children while in the military" , tell then exactly when she is supposed Robynhttp://www.breastfeedingincombatboots.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-81526626531625763942011-10-05T08:27:41.773-04:002011-10-05T08:27:41.773-04:00I have somehow managed to have a securely-attached...I have somehow managed to have a securely-attached toddler after going back to work more than full time once he was 4.5 months old. I nursed him until he weaned at 17 months (I'm pregnant and my milk supply basically stopped). We coslept and I nursed him every 1-2 hours every night since the day he was born, only having 5-6 hours of total sleep myself before going to work for 8-12 hours a dayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-75309445375529130322011-10-04T23:48:53.375-04:002011-10-04T23:48:53.375-04:00Hear, hear! Although I believe object permanence c...Hear, hear! Although I believe object permanence can be understood earlier than 3 years for some, I agree with the statement this article makes. We made so many adjustments so that I can stay at home with our children and I don't regret it at all, and blessedly neither does my husband.Murphettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05627627237929243129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-58004686236043502682011-10-04T22:17:55.286-04:002011-10-04T22:17:55.286-04:00I can see why you would feel like there might be a...I can see why you would feel like there might be a backlash about this but I 100% agree and for the most part do this. I don't feel comfortable being gone at all during the first year. 45min-1hr feel like a life time to me. I can only imagine how my baby must feel. After the first year maybe 3 hours at the most and they are 3-4 now. I still don't like being away for more then 3 hours LaLashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18187330106587870722noreply@blogger.com