tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post6064986280224275596..comments2024-03-16T14:18:11.330-04:00Comments on peaceful parenting: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother: Reflections of a Peaceful Parenting MomUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-77595228407635911212011-02-28T17:53:33.820-05:002011-02-28T17:53:33.820-05:00I have tiger parents and they are now tiger grandp...I have tiger parents and they are now tiger grandparents insisting that i should raise my kids this way and that way. <br /><br />My parents put us in good schools they could afford. And they required perfection in grades, quiz scores. 9/10 quiz score is not good at all. The only way to please them, that i know they would be treat me well (a.k.a. not get angry / not shout at me / not talk to me Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-34920943000447655242011-02-28T03:42:48.089-05:002011-02-28T03:42:48.089-05:00I think a balance is so vital. Compassion, creativ...I think a balance is so vital. Compassion, creativity (which I think is declining due to too much visual media, the creative and imaginative parts of the brain aren't getting stimulated enough in children.. period. Children do not learn and grow through sight, but by DOING.), a well rounded child and adult is a must. You must be loved, accepted, and encouraged. But not through emotional "Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-67794452088696198252011-02-27T23:33:37.642-05:002011-02-27T23:33:37.642-05:00Evelyn Lau
Runaway: Diary of a street kid
some o...Evelyn Lau <br />Runaway: Diary of a street kid<br /><br />some of the "Tiger cubs" dont excel and this can become the outcome:(<br /><br />I read this as a teenager and words can not express how I felt:(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-83915873886735726492011-02-26T23:15:18.235-05:002011-02-26T23:15:18.235-05:00Personally, I think the sign of being the most &qu...Personally, I think the sign of being the most "successful" parent is when your adult children want to actually be around you, when they call you for advice, and when they visit often, or do their best not to move away so you see each other all the time. When they actually want their children to be around you too. To be raised with these priorities - God, family, then work - is a good Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-12497930002923200922011-02-24T01:23:06.036-05:002011-02-24T01:23:06.036-05:00I am on the fence on this. I want what she has giv...I am on the fence on this. I want what she has given to her kids, but without the cruelty. I have 3 very bright, but learning disabled kids, and I wonder how she would have addressed this. Is it possible to create super successful kids without depriving them of their childhood?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-36856766539417400792011-02-24T00:52:38.258-05:002011-02-24T00:52:38.258-05:00i don't think parents can be categorized so ea...i don't think parents can be categorized so easily. each parent and each child is different. <br /><br />for me, i read a lot of everything before becoming a parent and listened to the advice of others, but in the end i naturally gravitated toward peaceful parenting. i just examined what my instincts were telling me and what info was out there on topics. i guess my approach would be - forget Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-35963322650362638562011-02-24T00:22:24.550-05:002011-02-24T00:22:24.550-05:00There's a thing called middle ground. You don&...There's a thing called middle ground. You don't want to be a parent who doesn't do anything at all, doesn't set standards for your children and have expectations. You don't want to be the cool parent who lets your kids drink and smoke and leaves them lost when they need guidance. But you don't want to be the sort of parent who thinks they are a movie drill Sargent. You donShondolynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-34954711835090533562011-02-24T00:18:02.995-05:002011-02-24T00:18:02.995-05:00I think, what I want for my kids is not for them t...I think, what I want for my kids is not for them to be happy or successful. I want them to be honest, upright Christian people who live their lives respectfully and contentedly. I that means I don't indulge them so that they are always happy, and I don't berate or push them to be perfect. I treat them respectfully, and expect them to treat me and others the same way. I want them to honor Hollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-61270754971943797032011-02-24T00:16:58.628-05:002011-02-24T00:16:58.628-05:00There are lots of unhappy people that were raised ...There are lots of unhappy people that were raised by parents that weren't domineering, (parents that never pushed). But, their lives are not going to be found in any paper because Nobody cares about the "Nameless" them, (but you can find them hanging about doing nothing, or hanging out at gov'ment offices looking for hand outs). There are plenty of unhappy people raised by all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-2580292745397058452011-02-24T00:14:13.652-05:002011-02-24T00:14:13.652-05:00Interesting critique. Thanks!Interesting critique. Thanks!Paigenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-24955595030371445822011-02-24T00:13:51.338-05:002011-02-24T00:13:51.338-05:00I am both! I have high expectations for my Homesch...I am both! I have high expectations for my Homeschooled 4, they are expected to earn their keep with chores and keeping up those grades, they expected to be responsible and polite! and we are also a Military family ( yes, drill sarge...ant fathers tend to bring their work home to the little soldiers) BUT ! wait I'm also a homebirhting, co-sleeping, extended breastfeeding, intactivst, Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-84457169800880365562011-02-24T00:08:32.623-05:002011-02-24T00:08:32.623-05:00I loved Amy Chua on The Colbert Report - you can r...I loved Amy Chua on The Colbert Report - you can really tell when listening to her that she wrote this book as a memoir of her own experiences and was brutally honest as a way of making fun of herself, working through her own upbringing and what was expected of her, and learning how to let go in the raising of her children. She didn't really write this book to tell the world that "LynnY.http://www.colbertnation.com/full-episodes/tue-january-25-2011-amy-chuanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-76134754867753366912011-02-24T00:04:44.588-05:002011-02-24T00:04:44.588-05:00My husband was raised by a teacher, in Switzerland...My husband was raised by a teacher, in Switzerland (different educational system) and chose not to go to high school, with the blessing of his teacher mother. Instead he chose a vocational school. Later, on his own, he chose university and eventually earned a PhD. He admits that had he been forced to go to high school, he likely would have stopped early, burnt out, and never gone to college. He Cherisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18309835002251352483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-28878885259433221692011-02-23T23:29:01.086-05:002011-02-23T23:29:01.086-05:00I am really surprised to read something like this ...I am really surprised to read something like this on a site called Peaceful Parenting. But here are my thoughts:<br /><br />Calling your daughters garbage and forcing them to play piano without bathroom breaks for hours on end is abusive. I struggle with calling her methods "parenting" of any form. <br /><br />Her ethnicity is beside the point when it comes to being a mother. The Sara Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02937314244946393760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-6446726633110650102011-02-23T21:56:53.733-05:002011-02-23T21:56:53.733-05:00I think that so much of the media attention about ...I think that so much of the media attention about this book jumped on a few sound bites and really didn't delve into the meat of the book. I'm so glad that you kept an open mind and found so much to identify with here.<br /><br />Thanks for such a thorough review and for being on the tour!Heather J. @ TLC Book Tourshttp://tlcbooktours.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-19330165398543401972011-02-23T21:51:26.049-05:002011-02-23T21:51:26.049-05:00A friend and I were talking about this online the ...A friend and I were talking about this online the other day. I had heard so many awful things about Chua's book and upon reading it for myself, I was astounded to find that I did not find her parenting wrong or abusive or any of the other adjectives I'd heard thrown around. I felt like she was parenting with different definitions of success, achievement, what is best for her children, Sarah @ BecomingSarah.comhttp://www.becomingsarah.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-17113563777541598332011-02-23T19:45:32.550-05:002011-02-23T19:45:32.550-05:00I think that the critical piece of information wit...I think that the critical piece of information with regard to parenting is whether there is respect in the communication. Without some measure of respect there is the danger of belittling someone so much because they didn't get the gold medal, that they think of themselves as unworthy... and low self-esteem. It worked for this woman, but I suspect that she had many discussions with her Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13228908412763483894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-9708722175718170902011-02-23T19:22:27.340-05:002011-02-23T19:22:27.340-05:00I don't think the pushing Amy Chua describes i...I don't think the pushing Amy Chua describes is universally "Chinese" parenting. In my experience -- I come from a Chinese family and taught in an area with fifty to eighty percent Asian students -- some parents demand and push, and some don't. What comes from the culture, I think, is the value on education and the effort parents are willing to put into their children's Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-87357773720145732102011-02-23T17:25:12.750-05:002011-02-23T17:25:12.750-05:00Why has the creativity index of American youth bee...Why has the creativity index of American youth been declining for decades?<br /><br />Why is American kids' creativity index decreasing sharply starting from 1990s while Asian kids have developed a balanced and advanced brain functions between left and right sides, which means Asian Americans have not only advanced skills in reasoning, logics, math, science and languages but also advanced Tiger Moms Networkhttp://blog.tigermoms.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-67737478759133753272011-02-23T17:25:05.051-05:002011-02-23T17:25:05.051-05:00My other issue with Chua's model is the idea t...My other issue with Chua's model is the idea that success is always measured THIS way, by THESE standards, which are fairly narrow. What happens to the gifted, bright child whose gifts lie in more unconventional directions, like messy art and sculpture, or international relations, or heck, what if the kid is deep down inside destined to be a bassoon virtuoso? Yes, I absolutely agree that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-67924470226536111132011-02-23T16:10:41.621-05:002011-02-23T16:10:41.621-05:00here was my response:
http://happytogetherish.blog...here was my response:<br />http://happytogetherish.blogspot.com/2011/01/if-she-is-tiger-i-am-crap-no-idea.htmlJust Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09613843318204543298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-30743146445506342462011-02-23T16:06:25.822-05:002011-02-23T16:06:25.822-05:00What about disabled children? The Chinese are very...What about disabled children? The Chinese are very prejudiced against disabled people i wonder if this is where it stems from?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-58897176850406912782011-02-23T16:02:11.922-05:002011-02-23T16:02:11.922-05:00I was raised very differently. My parents told us ...I was raised very differently. My parents told us to do our best and not sell ourselves short. However, if our best did not amount to more than barely passing a subject that would be fine for them if we really tried. However, they did not accept bad grades if they were due to watching too much tv or spending too much time with friends. After doing our best our parents wanted us to be able to Elinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06401440551873070129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-64381799461212426072011-02-23T13:16:12.459-05:002011-02-23T13:16:12.459-05:00I wonder how tiger mothers would respond if they h...I wonder how tiger mothers would respond if they had a child who simply could not excel at academics? I had a son who, despite the best attempts, could not read until he was 10. The only academic thing he excelled at was bible quizzing-in his high school years. He spent so much time on it, though, that if he had spent that much time on every academic subject, there would not be enough hours Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-47885950676413475852011-02-23T10:09:44.109-05:002011-02-23T10:09:44.109-05:00I can actually relate to her too. I strive to be a...I can actually relate to her too. I strive to be a "peaceful parent", but I also want my daughter to have drive when she is older. I personally feel that it is a matter of balance- wanting your child to feel as loved and treasured as they are, and wanting them to be as successful as they deserve to be.mandynoreply@blogger.com