tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post6222896736253978073..comments2024-03-28T03:20:20.956-04:00Comments on peaceful parenting: Crying It Out Causes Damage to the BrainUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-56312055564418441712015-04-13T20:03:00.419-04:002015-04-13T20:03:00.419-04:00my neighbours baby cried for a weeek. the doctor g...my neighbours baby cried for a weeek. the doctor gave anti biotics. Worse than useless. I used to go to a doctor who was head of the vegetarians society.<br />I called him and asked what he would recommend. He said" take a clean pice of cotton and soak in water, then squeeze out the excess<br />water.and placxe on the baby's stomach untill it dries. Then get an organic apple and squeeze Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-74984176529066879662013-08-31T10:09:37.954-04:002013-08-31T10:09:37.954-04:00How much crying alone is too much? I am a single m...How much crying alone is too much? I am a single mom and have to on occasion let my son cry for 10 to 20 mins here or there every day to eat, shower toilet ect. He's 3 months and have had to do this from birth. Is this causing bad brain damage? I'm scared! How can I be sure it hasn't caused damage???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-15920155752898360062013-08-05T16:15:03.933-04:002013-08-05T16:15:03.933-04:00My baby is 11 months. When he stays at the sitters...My baby is 11 months. When he stays at the sitters he sleeps in a little seat that sort of cradles him. He has just grown out of it so we tried placing him in the playpen to sleep but he did not like that at all. We then placed a child mat on the floor with a blanket and small pillows for him to sleep. He didn't like it either, but he did stay however still crying his eyes out. He wasn't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-22292666543747776952013-05-21T09:55:12.599-04:002013-05-21T09:55:12.599-04:00I have never ever let my son CIO and now he cries ...I have never ever let my son CIO and now he cries very rarely - our neighbors still ask "Are you at home? We can"t hear your baby cry." The less baby cries = the less baby cries. How simple. You won't find a cat, dog or lion who would not react to its cubs'crying immediately. It is a matter of instinct. Our instincts are good, but we resist them. This is a principle meant DeepGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16464776710719600685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-42263689862242970122012-04-18T02:27:00.095-04:002012-04-18T02:27:00.095-04:00If only these links were provided in books that su...If only these links were provided in books that suggest the CIO Method - like Tizzy Hall etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-55029576227922865772012-02-14T18:06:44.449-05:002012-02-14T18:06:44.449-05:00My in-laws said exactly the same thing. I tried wa...My in-laws said exactly the same thing. I tried walking past my baby (8 months at the time) and she cried for me and I didn't go to her. I couldn't bring myself to do it a second time. They both looked at me and said that she was manipulating me and that I was making a rod for my own back. Needless to say, I don't listen take heed to their advice. I ALWAYS pick my toddler up if she Kaz Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13499577534301874217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-36635149822332555402012-02-14T17:55:22.761-05:002012-02-14T17:55:22.761-05:00My in-laws said exactly the same thing! I tried to...My in-laws said exactly the same thing! I tried to let my baby cry as I walked past because they said 'she was manipulating me' and I couldn't do it a second time. I didn't care what they said from that point on. I've just found out I'm pregnant again and will continue doing what I feel is right. AP all the way. :DKaz Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13499577534301874217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-30944293789825892552011-12-14T03:56:39.980-05:002011-12-14T03:56:39.980-05:00I have a friend who lets her son "Cry it Out&...I have a friend who lets her son "Cry it Out" and I have NEVER in my life known of a child who is soooo detatched emotionally. He does not like to be cuddled, kissed, rocked, loved on, hugged etc. He seems extremely behind developmentally and doesn't say much at all. She also did the CIO method with her daughter and she is very whiney, needy, demanding, emotional, COMPLETELY Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-69237839707298260462011-11-18T08:22:24.132-05:002011-11-18T08:22:24.132-05:00To Peach above: I hear you. My little one was in t...To Peach above: I hear you. My little one was in the NICU for a time as well. Most of the time, the nurses say the babies don't cry much because they are so young and fed so much on schedule they don't really get hungry in between and with a ratio of 2-3 babies per nurse, this means their cries are quickly attended to.<br /><br />That said, it all depends on the nurses involved. I had Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-82028050322655989612011-10-19T03:18:54.281-04:002011-10-19T03:18:54.281-04:00So Good to know..Thank u..So Good to know..Thank u..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-40589959626093900582011-10-17T01:27:12.361-04:002011-10-17T01:27:12.361-04:00This is encouraging and enlightening. It can be so...This is encouraging and enlightening. It can be so hard (especially when you struggle with insecurity as a whole) to trust your gut instinct and defend yourself/your child when your methods are constantly frowned upon by your own family. I know that I only want to do what is the very best, most loving and God-honoring for my children. Its hard when your heart says one thing, your mother says Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-81740289466819839632011-10-15T21:37:53.828-04:002011-10-15T21:37:53.828-04:00Something is very very wrong in our society.Something is very very wrong in our society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-12096163610753750572011-10-13T03:54:43.738-04:002011-10-13T03:54:43.738-04:00My MIL commented that "I was making a rod for...My MIL commented that "I was making a rod for my back". My response was "It's my back, and I'm OK with carrying it".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-13570704975478495582011-10-13T00:00:15.999-04:002011-10-13T00:00:15.999-04:00I'm going through this same argument with so m...I'm going through this same argument with so many people around me right now... just reading all the comments literally brought tears to my eyes. So glad to know there are lots of other mommies with the same feelings as me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-68907028503972215912011-09-12T12:39:22.931-04:002011-09-12T12:39:22.931-04:00It's sad how people think that picking up your...It's sad how people think that picking up your baby when they are crying is 'spoiling' them. Insane.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-1878420895824516192011-09-04T23:11:17.206-04:002011-09-04T23:11:17.206-04:00I had my son (5 1/2 months) on his tummy for some ...I had my son (5 1/2 months) on his tummy for some tummy time, and he was getting really fussy and started crying. Crying as in red in the face, tears streaming down his cheeks, etc crying. I went to pick him up and my husband said "well there goes him developing" and "you are a cute kid but you won't be very smart" and that my son is "manipulating me, see, he Terri1974https://www.blogger.com/profile/11660660814259431559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-66064734750696766212011-08-21T22:44:34.813-04:002011-08-21T22:44:34.813-04:00What about premature babies stuck in NICU's wi...What about premature babies stuck in NICU's without their mothers closeness? It breaks my heart what my son went through.Samantha Franklinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249283547377633349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-24802671691232943162011-02-28T16:42:30.617-05:002011-02-28T16:42:30.617-05:00@Anonymous, That breaks my heart. I pray that you ...@Anonymous, That breaks my heart. I pray that you can give to your daughter now what she needs and that she feels better about herself and her relationships. <br /><br />I came on here to research the method because I'm so firmly against it (our old small group at one point wanted to use Gary Ezzo's "Growing Kid's God's Way" as a Bible Study. YIKES!)<br />I've seen Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-73071058146106815632011-02-11T16:06:39.432-05:002011-02-11T16:06:39.432-05:00I have three kids. When one them was an infant, I ...I have three kids. When one them was an infant, I was not a good mother, I let her cry it out every night, I would not pick her up till morning, no matter how hard she cried. <br />With my other 2 children I would get them at night if they cried, and they are extremely well adjusted.<br />But my one daughter, at 10yrs old, has low self esteem, she cries often, and insists no one cares about her. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-2496943553059425042011-02-11T07:04:40.993-05:002011-02-11T07:04:40.993-05:00All of this is most helpful for me! I have 4 mont...All of this is most helpful for me! I have 4 month old twins. They rarely cry and when they do it's because they need something. Sometimes they will be a little fussy for around an hour. But that is rare and it's usually gas. Some anonymous family members (just in case I show this to them) will want to hold them and when they cry and I want to take them to breastfeed them, they will Renee' mother of twinsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-19239684754504872952011-02-08T13:23:21.104-05:002011-02-08T13:23:21.104-05:00Excessive crying which is not soothed by feeding, ...Excessive crying which is not soothed by feeding, colic, holding, touching, sleeping, etc. can be a sign of encephalitis (brain inflammation) caused by vaccinosis (vaccine damage). A friend of mine's baby cried inconsolably for 2 wks after a set of shots. She immediately went into seizures and cried to the point of exhaustion and then would resume her crying upon waking. Her daughter MaryClarenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-73632990660096175562011-02-08T13:10:02.589-05:002011-02-08T13:10:02.589-05:00You don't need any validation from your in-law...You don't need any validation from your in-laws as your own motherly and well-honed instincts are what's important here. My mother was a big advocate of Dr. Spock back in the 50's and still believed that children should be left to cry it out so as not to 'spoil' the child. <br /><br />I never agreed w/her on this point, and always tended to my children's needs via cryingMaryClarenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-26727794936501905762011-02-08T08:34:24.118-05:002011-02-08T08:34:24.118-05:00I have been told that I spoil my 6 week old bc I d...I have been told that I spoil my 6 week old bc I don't let her cry. This article makes me feel better for doing what I've been doing. I hate hearing my daughter cry and even if her needs are all met she may need something else....like love and affection in her mommy's arms :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-73282781680339585502011-02-08T07:35:22.587-05:002011-02-08T07:35:22.587-05:00http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1554414/Fasci...http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1554414/Fascinating_Slideshow_Supports_Attached_Parenting<br />I found the same thing but a google search of the link pointed me to this blog, which highlighted a few intersting points. Hope that helps!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-5231878330524396722011-02-08T02:45:41.869-05:002011-02-08T02:45:41.869-05:00I wrote this yesterday and I don't see my comm...I wrote this yesterday and I don't see my comment on here but this sentence here: "Ferber himself stated he would not repeat this with his own babies given what we now know to be true about the physiological, psychological, and emotional damage that CIO has on infants, children, and human development." Can you tell me where this is stated because my in laws are trying to get me toTomball mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02037696923772463681noreply@blogger.com