tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post6264738072392484630..comments2024-03-28T03:20:20.956-04:00Comments on peaceful parenting: The Dangers of Crying It Out Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-61826810152297425412015-03-10T22:54:54.736-04:002015-03-10T22:54:54.736-04:00Thank you so much for this article!! Has helped me...Thank you so much for this article!! Has helped me tremendously!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-29820299123746987562014-03-15T20:04:41.059-04:002014-03-15T20:04:41.059-04:00I agree with anonymous above. When my second son w...I agree with anonymous above. When my second son was 18 months old we removed him from the family bed to sleep with his older brother. He sleeps there no problem. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-13627062001652890222013-04-29T04:04:18.508-04:002013-04-29T04:04:18.508-04:00I totally love your website and how you advocate n...I totally love your website and how you advocate natural parenting, breastfeeding and co-sleeping sometimes. This article totally impressed me.. I have read a little about baby learning to self soothe but I couldn't really connect with it.. in fact i think its completely unnatural.. I loved everything that you said in the article!Nedhttp://www.squidoo.com/baby-trend-playardnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-52530550532393201832012-12-18T11:33:33.385-05:002012-12-18T11:33:33.385-05:00I am not a parent but I have family that are. Coul...I am not a parent but I have family that are. Could you pump breast milk ahead and have your husband bottle feed every other hour? That might give you more extended sleep for your restoration, meet your baby's need and increase bonding and comforting time for your husband with your baby. I hope his time between feedings begins to expand for all of you. Sounds like he could use some more Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-68667671736134079032012-11-27T11:24:46.985-05:002012-11-27T11:24:46.985-05:00Was he circumcised?Was he circumcised?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-56014408269731477482012-10-06T23:15:14.890-04:002012-10-06T23:15:14.890-04:00I have eight children. One of my children would n...I have eight children. One of my children would not sleep alone until 5 years old. What worked wonders for us was putting her in her siblings bed. At that point she stopped coming into ours. A friend who had an only child got a dog to sleep with their three year old. It worked. Put your little ones in bed or crib together. (You may want to put them in your room, but a separate bed, while Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-6574615261537676312012-10-05T16:03:34.316-04:002012-10-05T16:03:34.316-04:00I have a seventeen month old who wakes up hourly a...I have a seventeen month old who wakes up hourly at night to breastfeed. I haven't slept more than two hours consecutively for seventeen months. I am exhausted and this exhaustion is negatively impacting my mental health, my productivity at work, and my relationship with my husband and son. I work full time, so it is not an option to take naps while he sleeps. During our past attempts to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-42745256414850130782012-09-23T22:12:43.575-04:002012-09-23T22:12:43.575-04:00Ok. I can see how various lengths of thing will &q...Ok. I can see how various lengths of thing will "produce" different results. Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598524571479954748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-85574639810807388932012-09-23T03:42:36.481-04:002012-09-23T03:42:36.481-04:00CIO = ignoring a baby's cry for any duration o...CIO = ignoring a baby's cry for any duration of time. Not the same as crying-in-arms while the root cause is sought out. <br /><br />There are different 'techniques' of *controlled crying* (implementing CIO for various durations of time - which in tern, have varying degrees of impact on the developing brain and hormone make up). But the two are not always the same (controlled crying Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-63734689700996837602012-09-22T23:46:57.666-04:002012-09-22T23:46:57.666-04:00I like this article but I'm just unsure of the...I like this article but I'm just unsure of the implications as no definition of CIO has been given. CIO means so many different things to so many different people... so it makes it somewhat difficult. Does this mean x may happen if a baby has to CIO for 10 minutes? 2 hours? There are so many different techniques that can be used.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01598524571479954748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-80929281437386528792012-09-20T02:28:57.820-04:002012-09-20T02:28:57.820-04:00@Kacey Its an adjustment- Dads don't bond natu...@Kacey Its an adjustment- Dads don't bond naturally with infants like mothers. It takes time, progression, and work for us to reach the level moms make in an instant at birth.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-63268626884495660722012-09-19T17:48:13.740-04:002012-09-19T17:48:13.740-04:00Any suggestions would be appreciated: I have to r...Any suggestions would be appreciated: I have to return to work, but only 4 hours twice a week. The problem is my husband, who will be keeping the baby those hours when I work, doesn't seem able to comfort our 10 week old. When I return from a run (after nursing and making sure baby is content), the baby is limp and spent from crying, even though my husband has been holding him, talking to Kaceynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-3172863181554277452012-09-13T02:34:30.523-04:002012-09-13T02:34:30.523-04:00Oh goodness! Reading this invaluable article affir...Oh goodness! Reading this invaluable article affirms my feelings and beliefs, makes my heart sad for so many people and children (including you Darcia, I'd love to wrap my arms around you and give you a big squeeze) It ticks me off that so many people from so many walks of life think that "crying it out" is totally normal and acceptable. I have a pit in my stomach for several peopleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-52523258699874568182012-09-12T05:23:10.765-04:002012-09-12T05:23:10.765-04:00Excellent in all regards! I have advanced degrees ...Excellent in all regards! I have advanced degrees in cultural anthropology and counseling psychology (my profession). I've long thought that crying babies are unnatural and should be comforted until quiet. The work of Alan Schore and Daniel Siegel have strongly convinced me that I'm right. The concept of the "external womb" is perfect. That's what babies need. As they grow Tom Cloyd MS MAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16811226248284871059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-9028069704827752802012-09-11T18:19:27.662-04:002012-09-11T18:19:27.662-04:00What a fantastic article, thank you so much! I'...What a fantastic article, thank you so much! I've been telling people for years that babies crying is dangerous because if we were in the wild the lions would know where they are. So nice to see someone else saying the same thing.Samantha Thurlby-Brookshttp://www.joyfulchildbirth.co.nznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-13151866993309643132012-09-11T12:44:46.219-04:002012-09-11T12:44:46.219-04:00I ask this in all seriousness because this is a so...I ask this in all seriousness because this is a source I trust. We co-slept/breastfed (in fact, everybody's still nursed around here!) around the clock for 15+ months with both kids. Now they're 2 and 3 and a half. Is there an age when a few minutes of crying that happens when encouraging them to fall asleep alone IS acceptable? While my older has always needed company to fall asleep, theAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com