tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post8607992170795453208..comments2024-03-28T03:20:20.956-04:00Comments on peaceful parenting: No Longer Intact: My Son's StoryUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-77459232370719343372012-05-24T18:27:18.804-04:002012-05-24T18:27:18.804-04:00Kimberly-((HUGS)) to you! I feel your pain. Please...Kimberly-((HUGS)) to you! I feel your pain. Please know that it is not your fault and that you are loved. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-67147368740743540322012-02-09T11:53:41.920-05:002012-02-09T11:53:41.920-05:00My son was born perfect. He was so sweet and never...My son was born perfect. He was so sweet and never cried. At first I thought something was wrong because we could not get him to cry but he was just so perfect and had such a gentle personality.<br /><br />My husband insisted he be circumcised and I agreed against my better judgement. They took my sweet perfect boy into the room next to mine and I could hear him screaming. I had never heard my Kimberlynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-4433338866412381312011-10-02T13:57:34.825-04:002011-10-02T13:57:34.825-04:00It is wonderful that you were willing to write abo...It is wonderful that you were willing to write about this terribly painful part of your life. My eldest is a girl, and after growing up with 6 brothers who are all circumcised, I would have agreed to circumcision if she had been a boy because I was also a 19 year old when she was born. I didn't know anything else, I didn't question whether something was right or wrong. I think God gave meD_Staceyhttps://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=506762538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-15110290261950805992011-07-25T17:39:22.782-04:002011-07-25T17:39:22.782-04:00I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It ma...I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It makes me so angry that this, even still today, is happening to baby boys. I know I wasn't an intactavist until my son was violated and I'm sure many others have horror stories to share. Keep spreading the word and sharing your story, just as I did, so that one day people will be informed and change will happen.Danielle Nethertonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-70213039838719151702011-06-21T04:08:13.374-04:002011-06-21T04:08:13.374-04:00Thank you for your kind words Amy. :)Thank you for your kind words Amy. :)vhcsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10645365035346461410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-77466514343489253962011-06-20T11:11:20.356-04:002011-06-20T11:11:20.356-04:00Thank you for writing your story. Your son is amaz...Thank you for writing your story. Your son is amazing for forgiving you and you must forgive yourself. You have empowered so many with your story and hopefully someday this will no longer be an option in the U.S. Blessings to you and your wonderful family. My husband is cut, but we chose to keep our son whole and that is all we can hope for, that the future generations will stop hurting our Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-58441108220792824882011-04-26T23:48:30.292-04:002011-04-26T23:48:30.292-04:00This is terrible and the doctor should be held acc...This is terrible and the doctor should be held accountable for his actions.<br /><br />Consent forms are not required by law but all medical facilities use them to protect themselves. This stupid doctor did not protect himself and you can be the beneficiary of his stupidity.<br /><br />Since this happened more than 3 years ago Barbara, you yourself can do nothing but your son can. He can and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-4739584664919925072011-04-14T03:24:32.596-04:002011-04-14T03:24:32.596-04:00Thank you all for your kind words! I will fight ti...Thank you all for your kind words! I will fight til my death for children to have their right to bodily integrity. -Barb SmalleyBarbara C. Smalleyhttp://www.facebook.com/KelaiahLynnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-6157781879438533902011-04-14T02:37:23.770-04:002011-04-14T02:37:23.770-04:00roger desmoulins said..."Whether or not to ci...roger desmoulins said..."Whether or not to circumcise the boy should have been decided well before the surgery. The surgeon was well aware that the boy was intact as soon as he examine him pre-op. That's when he should have had a conversation with the Mom, not when he was still knocked out from his testicle surgery." __//__ Roger is absolutely right, but it's very likely the Richard Russellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-13416107241884487622011-03-14T10:44:18.417-04:002011-03-14T10:44:18.417-04:00I am absolutely baffled by this post - in the UK w...I am absolutely baffled by this post - in the UK we only circumsize for health reasons (eg if there is a problem with the foreskin that prevents the penis working properly, a friend had it done in his 20s for that reason). Islamic/Jewish families choose to have it done, but as a rule most British boys are what you call in tact!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-60468204842501035382011-03-06T22:06:09.985-05:002011-03-06T22:06:09.985-05:00Unfortunately, many, if not all, surgical consent ...Unfortunately, many, if not all, surgical consent forms such as the one you had to sign for the original procedure, contain language such as..."I also consent to any other procedure that the surgeon may deem necessary in the course of performing this surgery." It is in there to cover the doctor from later malpractice suits such as the one being discussed here. The doctors usually Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-91154257510327149852011-03-02T17:51:44.494-05:002011-03-02T17:51:44.494-05:00The crux of the problem is described in the follow...The crux of the problem is described in the following passage. What it describes is incompatible with ethical medecine. Whether or not to circumcise the boy should have been decided well before the surgery. The surgeon was well aware that the boy was intact as soon as he examine him pre-op. That's when he should have had a conversation with the Mom, not when he was still knocked out from his roger desmoulinsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-42967181459932816872011-03-02T06:49:11.354-05:002011-03-02T06:49:11.354-05:00(((hugs)))(((hugs)))James Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06405441795197845937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-13796985199434938332011-03-02T05:01:38.405-05:002011-03-02T05:01:38.405-05:00The perpetrators, accomplices, and accessories to ...The perpetrators, accomplices, and accessories to that felony mayhem on the sexual organ of an infant must be prosecuted for that crime. We must demand that the law enforcement and legal justice system take appropriate action. If they fail to or refuse to take action, then that is also a crime. There is probably no statute of limitations for this type of crime.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14182133764965096096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-41613923197933079072011-03-02T02:40:05.331-05:002011-03-02T02:40:05.331-05:00My hand was over my heart while I read your story....My hand was over my heart while I read your story. I was so touched by it. I am so sorry that this happened to you and your son. We put our trust and faith in doctors so easily and often learn after the fact that they did not educate us about all of our options. <br /><br />Recently my son had eye surgery and there have been complications resulting from it that were never discussed as a MsWordstresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08447821879372961881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-50410995968983729352011-03-01T23:36:23.681-05:002011-03-01T23:36:23.681-05:00Your son has one year from when he turns 18 to sue...Your son has one year from when he turns 18 to sue the doctor. I think he should, doctors need to be sent a message that this is not ok. No consent was given by you, and this was an absolute violation of his right to a whole body.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-34619062393624649242011-03-01T22:16:57.080-05:002011-03-01T22:16:57.080-05:00She *must* tell him about foreskin restoration if ...She *must* tell him about foreskin restoration if she hasn't already, to save what's left of his glans' sensitivity, to reverse the keratinization process and to protect what remains an internal organ from irritants, etc.seymourhttp://www.abolitionistapproach.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-43731205969681685662011-03-01T19:33:09.669-05:002011-03-01T19:33:09.669-05:00I'm really surprised no one mentioned circumci...I'm really surprised no one mentioned circumcision when he was born. When I had my son last year, I was asked at least 3 times if I wanted him circumcised(I didn't).<br /><br />You would think that any normal doctor who comes across an intact toddler would just assume that his parents want him to be that way. Instead, that doctor decided that the normal penis he was born with was a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-65386071302573725792011-03-01T19:30:33.745-05:002011-03-01T19:30:33.745-05:00Your son should be getting close to the age at whi...Your son should be getting close to the age at which he could sue the doctor on his own behalf. Since there was not informed consent process, I would think there would be a pretty good case.<br /><br />It's very important that these bastards get held accountable as much as possible and hopefully learn that there are potential consequences to manipulating parents into agreeing to unneccessaryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-8790527737332287592011-03-01T18:08:44.492-05:002011-03-01T18:08:44.492-05:00Thank you, thank you, thank you for your honesty i...Thank you, thank you, thank you for your honesty in telling this difficult story. Thank you for telling the truth about your feelings and not continuing the lie that 'it's no big deal'.Diane Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18257388985709593651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-25151136958755453292011-03-01T16:59:25.873-05:002011-03-01T16:59:25.873-05:00Just posted this here. http://www.momaroo.com/7421...Just posted this here. http://www.momaroo.com/742107077/is-it-legal-for-a-city-to-place-a-ban-on-circumcision/?page=1#viewcommentsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-76349678898256677292011-03-01T14:40:55.436-05:002011-03-01T14:40:55.436-05:00Barb, thank you for sharing your and Vs story, so ...Barb, thank you for sharing your and Vs story, so that this will not happen to more boys. Bless you for being a strong, dedicated mother, and for raising such a caring compassionate son. Love you lots!!!Jadanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-60328531144115489152011-03-01T14:33:23.507-05:002011-03-01T14:33:23.507-05:00I am so very sorry. This is a horrific story of a...I am so very sorry. This is a horrific story of a doctor committing an atrocity against someone. You didn't even know what circumcision was! Please don't blame yourself. I would consider possibly looking into suing the doctor for this. How many other boys has he butchered?Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08304188988165235918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-31576884868115020482011-03-01T14:08:21.909-05:002011-03-01T14:08:21.909-05:00Barb, thanks for sharing your story! Thank you fo...Barb, thanks for sharing your story! Thank you for having the courage to apologize to your son! Many parents never evaluate if what they have done was the best thing, and many many parents never apologize to their children for anything. Your son's comments speak volumes about what a beautiful young man he is, and you have played a big part in that! You have been real with him, and you Andrea von Schoeningnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-5795467529803123392011-03-01T13:42:14.184-05:002011-03-01T13:42:14.184-05:00This broke my heart... How DARE those so called Dr...This broke my heart... How DARE those so called Dr's do that to your little boy... This most def is NOT your fault. Thank you for sharing your story. *Hugs*Cammillenoreply@blogger.com