tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post996108435208793985..comments2024-03-16T14:18:11.330-04:00Comments on peaceful parenting: Why Spanking is Never OkayUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger76125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-32980945916125194742014-11-30T04:01:19.608-05:002014-11-30T04:01:19.608-05:00As a small child, I got into trouble for drawing o...As a small child, I got into trouble for drawing on the wall. My punishment was to clean the wall. I remember that it took a very long time to completely remove the crayon. I never drew on a wall again. Please research and find alternatives to CP. Otherwise, you will only teach your child that people who "love" them, hurt them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-68352076641050321492014-01-01T18:21:02.428-05:002014-01-01T18:21:02.428-05:00To the last Anon - there are many, many, many effe...To the last Anon - there are many, many, many effective ways to discipline and to teach caution and wisdom and discernment among our children that do not involve hitting them... Not spanking does not equate to risk of getting hit by a car. Marknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-89612699802469094982013-12-21T01:42:02.978-05:002013-12-21T01:42:02.978-05:00Have you even known a child who was perfectly old ...Have you even known a child who was perfectly old enough to know better get killed by a vehicle because the child did what children often do...get focused on an activity and run out anyway despite knowing perfectly well the dangers? I have. More than one. These parents all assumed that their child who had displayed perfect understanding of the dangers many times would always be aware. They Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-2894402878087807892013-12-10T20:29:48.628-05:002013-12-10T20:29:48.628-05:00Hanna aren't you lucky you aren't afraid /...Hanna aren't you lucky you aren't afraid / weren't afraid of your father ?? So you think you are fine - but you think that hitting smaller human beings is 'necessary and fine' ?? Makes you very 'unfine' in most people's books.<br /> <br />Your two younger brothers lost their father when they were 'very young'- and you don't see THIS as being part ofSusanJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024302177261713681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-22924780613325096732013-11-21T13:05:04.937-05:002013-11-21T13:05:04.937-05:00A few things, wanting your child to do as your tol...A few things, wanting your child to do as your told all the time is not necessarily a good thing. Children who are "obedient" and taught to listen to adults without question are much more likely to be preyed upon by sexual predators because they do not speak up and voice that they feel the adult is harming them. Also, children's brains process things at a much slower speed than Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-74349755943767241982013-11-20T19:01:20.192-05:002013-11-20T19:01:20.192-05:00I do that sometimes too. I have been working hard...I do that sometimes too. I have been working hard to not, and am seeing results. I have smacked my kids' hands a couple of times and I think popped one of them on the butt once or twice. It was incredible wrong of me, and I felt terrible after every time, I always apologized for the hitting, and would explain "Even if you did this, that was no excuse for me to hit you". LuckilyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12765683005123692593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-60607123081047808332012-10-15T15:52:16.324-04:002012-10-15T15:52:16.324-04:00I am going to go ahead and use the argument that I...I am going to go ahead and use the argument that I was spanked as a child and I am fine. This is why. My older brother and I were both spanked as children, mostly by our dad. Was I afraid of my dad? Absolutely not. I did however have the upmost respect for dad and knew what would happen if I misbehaved, as did my older brother. My two younger brothers however were not spanked very often because Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17599313608885660814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-5717593057881973502012-10-15T14:33:52.756-04:002012-10-15T14:33:52.756-04:00I'm not sure I understand what you are saying,...I'm not sure I understand what you are saying, for I know many people who were spanked as children and still gotten behind the wheel and drove drunk. We can teach that negative actions have negative consequences without hitting our children. You, yourself, pointed out that you learned much more when you had to work to replace your brother's book, than you would have learned from being Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-64787377321901293972012-10-15T14:29:10.016-04:002012-10-15T14:29:10.016-04:00Yes. Thank you.Yes. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-63087512652604820332012-10-15T14:17:00.418-04:002012-10-15T14:17:00.418-04:00I agree. That argument has never made sense to me ...I agree. That argument has never made sense to me either. When my children are too small to understand that running in the street/parking lost is dangerous, they are being worn, placed directly from my arms into a cart, are carried, or their hands are held very tightly in mine or my husband's hand. Once my daughter (she is 4) was old enough to understand the dangers of cars in the road and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-3275946828532490792012-10-13T18:33:52.116-04:002012-10-13T18:33:52.116-04:00I dont understand the spanking for running into tr...I dont understand the spanking for running into traffic argument. I much rather teach my child that she needs to be careful in traffic than to not run because she will get a beating. With a little one I just physically make sure that she cant run away from me. With my 4 year old I constantly remind her of how she needs to behave when we are getting out of the car or approaching a parking lot. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-15863957970797769592012-07-26T02:28:49.326-04:002012-07-26T02:28:49.326-04:00Way to go Paula!Way to go Paula!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-85437662031434459402012-07-21T15:07:35.383-04:002012-07-21T15:07:35.383-04:00This is an open letter to all the rationalizing pa...This is an open letter to all the rationalizing parents who spank:<br /><br />Spanking is just a ephemistic word for "hit". And any small child could tell you that, but you've been "re-educated" so you call black white and white black.<br /><br />In future generations, people will look back on you and others like you and shake their heads and say: "Well, that was justAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-74614776000601452442012-07-13T16:42:10.547-04:002012-07-13T16:42:10.547-04:00Anonymous,
THAT IS AWESOME. I love that your so...Anonymous, <br /><br />THAT IS AWESOME. I love that your son learned car repair to avoid having to pay the huge fine. I would LOVE if my kids grew up to be that dedicated and resourceful!<br /><br />I told my (small) children just told that if they didn't stop throwing/running with the TV remote and it broke, they would not have TV to watch anymore. Their loss, right?Kate @ Modern Alternative Mamahttp://www.modernalternativemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-48157973314572247402012-07-09T08:27:22.194-04:002012-07-09T08:27:22.194-04:00I was spank till I was old enough (18) to run away...I was spank till I was old enough (18) to run away!! Both of my parents would push me, punch me and slap me in the face for little things as giving my opinion of something. I was never allowed to pay anything in the house and because of that I had no right to give an opinion or defend my self (that was their excuse). I was told repeatedly by them: We do not abuse you, there are kids that are Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-75691910420175348252012-07-07T18:24:38.287-04:002012-07-07T18:24:38.287-04:00No, your child hasn't learned to be respectful...No, your child hasn't learned to be respectful - only fearful. Oh and to hide his bad behaviour from you even better ie for when you aren't around. He isn't learning empathy. He IS learning however that 'might is right' and that your love is conditional. Rather than spanking for drawing on the wall - why not simply remove the pens? Seems so much simpler to me. <br /><br /SusanJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11024302177261713681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-73437722513072294002012-07-05T01:12:51.307-04:002012-07-05T01:12:51.307-04:00I really took a moment to try to see where you wer...I really took a moment to try to see where you were coming from however your article about spankings never being wrong doesn't help me to sort out all of the issues that state and society has helped me to endure. I've brought in therapist, drs, school counsel, CYF and a number of respectable people on how to coach train rear-up my child only to have the actions of the child fall back on Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-52549612903343782422012-07-01T14:22:37.655-04:002012-07-01T14:22:37.655-04:00Gosh I'd like to ostracise some peopleGosh I'd like to ostracise some peopleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-15860246726427738952012-07-01T14:02:49.982-04:002012-07-01T14:02:49.982-04:00I'm a woman, and one of the reasons I never ha...I'm a woman, and one of the reasons I never had kids was that I might not be able to stop their father from spanking them . . . . . And enjoying it and joking about itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-14802983820815712512012-06-28T23:10:25.075-04:002012-06-28T23:10:25.075-04:00I was not spanked, I was beaten. Because of that, ...I was not spanked, I was beaten. Because of that, I don't spank my children or grandchildren. <br /><br />I am very even tempered and have a long fuse. I abide by laws and follow rules. I was not a truant, nor did I destroy other peoples property, ever. My words are my discipline to errant behavior. I am strong, faithful, and have always given the other guy a chance. I am not aggressive and IAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-64872064074437463182012-06-28T10:52:12.217-04:002012-06-28T10:52:12.217-04:00I'm 50 years old. I was hit for most of my lif...I'm 50 years old. I was hit for most of my life by my mother (my father never laid his hands on me). She used a dog leash, her slippers, her hands, and one time she was going to use one of those coca cola 2 liter bottles to hit me over the head (it was made of glass, not plastic at that time), but she didn't after I yelled "mom!?" because she looked like she was in a trance Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-14906550294263661552012-06-27T18:10:41.318-04:002012-06-27T18:10:41.318-04:00I was spanked as a child, as was my mother, her mo...I was spanked as a child, as was my mother, her mother, and so-forth. I remember being angry at her for spanking me, and the spankings themselves did not correlate at all in my mind to the bad behaviors I was doing. I have heard the argument that spanking is alright until the child is old enough to 'reason with'. This really confuses me. If the child is not old enough to reason with, thenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-27785205730224907182012-06-26T13:10:42.166-04:002012-06-26T13:10:42.166-04:00I don't see you as a great parent. I see you ...I don't see you as a great parent. I see you as a parent bullying her children into doing what she wants them to. you clearly haven't read a single thing on this post about the negative consequences of what you are doing.Amandahttp://www.facebook.com/callingfortransparencynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-20437800352076788692012-06-26T12:06:24.613-04:002012-06-26T12:06:24.613-04:00this came across my FB feed, and I thought "t...this came across my FB feed, and I thought "that sounds like a good article!" Lo and behold, I've already read it! Happy to report 13 months later that things are better. I do the disciplining now. I realized that most of DH's aggression/anger/anting kids to follow orders, was because of his recent return from military deployment where he picked up some PTSD symptoms, and was a Paula -- CutieFruityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03224966610792428165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31180029.post-43509715115782171882012-06-26T11:50:58.689-04:002012-06-26T11:50:58.689-04:00I think we need compassion for people who were hit...I think we need compassion for people who were hit as children. They need to heal and cry for their own lost childhood. It is an incredibly difficult process, and I really commend anyone who comes through to the other side. I understand your last line, but do hope you can move to a place where you can see that where that person who defends violence toward children is is only in this moment -- he Wendy Kellyhttp://blog.i-school-at-home.com/noreply@blogger.com