The Circumcision Secret

By Stan Emerson

I am a 51-year-old, circumcised man.

By age 43 I had lost all glans sensitivity. It became difficult, at times even when I was alone, to reach orgasm and ejaculation. This is the big secret here. But of course most cut men don't even know why they have difficulty with, or lose interest in, intercourse or masturbation with age.

Due to the awful damage to my penis, there is just no more physical sensory input to achieve or produce much or any pleasure, and the neurological triggers that lead to orgasm and ejaculation are severely damaged or not even present.

I was cut way too tightly to "restore" my foreskin with stretching, so I gave up some years ago. There was no gain at all in the time I did spend in restoration. I was born to Catholics, sexually mutilated at birth by an elderly Jew (a medical doctor) born in Russia in 1888. I was born in Beth Israel Hospital, Newark, New Jersey. The doctor sliced off an excessive amount of my prepuce organ and the skin system of my penis so I was never able to have a normal sex life, not even during masturbation.

My goal is to make sexually mutilated men, fathers, and women too, furious (in a non-violent way) at the sexual mutilators at large today.

Circumcision was mentioned to me by my late mother when I was in 9th grade.

No details, no explanation.

Just a mention of circumcision since it had been severely inflicted on me at birth. I did not wonder about it for decades. I heard Dr. Dean Edell, MD, on the radio about the craziness of and damage from infant circumcision. Reading more caused me anguish, alarm, and finally disgust. I'm concerned about the darker, troubling aspects of this tragedy: the sexually mutilated male MD's, the Semites, and the young fathers and their fear, envy, anxiety and hatred of the normal, natural, intact penis. I became a National Organization of Circumcision Information and Resource Centers (NOCIRC) activist, keen on confronting others with this atrocity and fraud.

Sign at Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2008 • Saving Our Sons

If your husband was circumcised, he will remain sexually mutilated until he dies. He has a partial, man-made, desexualized, and emasculated penis. If he was forced in infancy to undergo this senseless, violent, shameful, degrading practice (posing as medicine) then he has never known the joys and sexual sensations that only the intact man knows. His primary sex organ, his prepuce & penis, not his brain, was surgically reduced and permanently damaged anatomically, neurologically, and physiologically. What pleasure he experiences now will fade soon. In his 40s, when the glans of his penis is fully deadened and desensitized, he may lose interest in sex. Then too, he might die in denial, especially if he demands his own newborn son be circumcised to match his own partial, wrecked penis.

-Stan Emerson
and NOHARMM of Wisconsin/Madison | Intact Wisconsin

• Saving Our Sons Community
Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole (non-venting, educational only)
Peaceful Intact Education

More men tell their stories about how circumcision has impacted them on the links/videos on this page. I hope that men are empowered to speak up about this very important topic. Change can only happen when we are not longer silent about such awful abuse of our boys and men.

What was so difficult in keeping my son intact was not that my son would feel different in a locker room, but that I would feel different from him. I would then have to accept that I'm an amputee from the wars of a past generation.

t-shirts on this page from MadeByMomma

Awareness raising and educational materials found at Etsy.
Circumcising a baby ignores the feelings and opinions of the man that baby may become...
If I want my son to 'match' me...


  1. I am a 54 year old man who was circumcised at birth. Like the author Stan, I noticed a decrease in sensitivity and sexual enjoyment in my 40s. But, unlike Stan's pessimistic prediction in his last paragraph, I chose to do something about it. I am restoring my foreskin. Although I will not regain everything that was taken away from me by circumcision, I have already regained a lot. Much of the sensitivity that I had in my 20s has returned. I also have the gliding action, which is very enjoyable.

    So, if a man is circumcised and has reached the age where the loss of sexual pleasure is noticable, he can restore his foreskin. Check out for more information.

  2. He has every right to be sad and angry, but most of us who are restoring are focusing on the positives. Even so, my heart breaks for this gentleman.

  3. Oh, that is so sad. I did not know about this side effect. I'm even more glad that my sons will not experience this later in life. I think I'll go hug my husband now...

  4. Aww Zoie!!! Hug him lots! YAY though for your whole babies! ;) I'm very glad my son is whole and will never experience such things.

  5. I had no idea of the lasting impact. :(

  6. So sad, isn't it? It screams the fact that circumcised men should NOT be able to make this decision for their son's....they have no idea what they are doing & talking about!

  7. It's impact! So glad my boy is intact. And I agree with Zoie... I'm going to go hug my husband now.

  8. Agreed. And thank you ladies for your support. It means so much in this herculean task we've undertaken to educate the public.

  9. This post sheds a light on a very dark corner of the house of possible circumcision side effects: the extinction of sexual sensation after age 40.

    My cut father's sex life ended around age 50; my brother's around age 45. I dear friend from my college days recently told me that he, at 53, has no more feeling in his penis. Last year I met a man whose sex life ended around 50; I took him 10 years to figure out why. He is now 63 and restoring.

    I am 59, intact, still very horny, and can make my wife come 3-4x.

  10. "But, unlike Stan's pessimistic prediction in his last paragraph, I chose to do something about it. I am restoring my foreskin."

    Stan has already stated that the cut was too high and restoration won't work for him. Perhaps this is the cause of his pessimism.

  11. This makes me even more happy that I left my boys intact. I feel for the author. My husband was circumcised but he doesn't think it has effected him... he is so wrong. :-(

  12. As Stan was, I was mutilated, by an old-fashioned Catholic doctor who took too much tissue away. I am trying to restore but it wil take a long time. As Stan discovered, at the age of 64, I too have little sensation in the parts that were intended to be soft and delicate.

  13. Everything here is true. The truth is bad enough.



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