Thursday, May 07, 2015

Antithesis



painting by Shakaya Leone 

Antithesis

I am large in my skin
I make no apology
This belly grew a baby
Why should it be flat?
It curves with the memory of the womb.
These breasts fed a baby
Why should they be pert?
They swell with the memory of milk.
These hips carried a child
Why should they be slim?
They are full with the memory of life.
My bones are secret under flesh
My skin plump and white and fine
Mine is the face of Botticelli
Mine is the water of the Nile
Mine is the shape of things forbidden
Daughter of Gaia, grown beautiful and wild.

~ Lorri Barrier


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Wednesday, May 06, 2015

Sleeping Babies Need Mom Beside Them

By Dr. James J. McKenna,
University of Notre Dame Mother-Baby Sleep Laboratory



Throughout human history, breast-feeding mothers sleeping alongside their infants constituted a marvelously adaptive system in which both the mothers' and infants' sleep physiology and health were connected in beneficial ways. By sleeping next to its mother, the infant receives protection, warmth, emotional reassurance, and breast milk - in just the forms and quantities that nature intended.

This sleeping arrangement permits mothers (and fathers) to respond quickly to the infant if it cries, chokes, or needs its nasal passages cleared, its body cooled, warmed, caressed, rocked or held. This arrangement thus helps to regulate the infant's breathing, sleep state, arousal patterns, heart rates and body temperature. The mother's proximity also stimulates the infant to feed more frequently, thus receiving more antibodies to fight disease. The increased nipple contact also causes changes in the mother's hormone levels that help to prevent a new pregnancy before the infant is ready to be weaned. In this way, the infant regulates its mother's biology, too; increased breast-feeding blocks ovulation, which helps to ensure that pregnancies will not ordinarily occur until the mother's body is able to restore the fat and iron reserves needed for optimal maternal health.

It is a curious fact that in Western societies the practice of mothers, fathers and infants sleeping together came to be thought of as strange, unhealthy and dangerous. Western parents are taught that "co-sleeping" will make the infant too dependent on them, or risk accidental suffocation. Such views are not supported by human experience worldwide, however, where for perhaps millions of years, infants as a matter of course slept next to at least one caregiver, usually the mother, in order to survive. At some point in recent history, infant separateness with low parental contact during the night came to be advocated by child care specialists, while infant-parent interdependence with high parental contact came to be discouraged. In fact, the few psychological studies which are available suggest that children who have "co-slept" in a loving and safe environment become better adjusted adults than those who were encouraged to sleep without parental contact or reassurance.

The fear of suffocating infants has a long and complex cultural history. Since before the middle ages "overlying" or suffocating infants deliberately was common, particularly among the poor in crowded cities. This form of infanticide led local church authorities to make laws forbidding parents to let infants sleep next to them. The practice of giving infants alcohol or opiates to get them to sleep also became common; under such conditions, babies often did not wake up, and it was presumed that the mothers must have overlaid them. Also, in smoke-filled, under-ventilated rooms, infants can easily succumb to asphyxia. Unfortunately, health officials in some Western countries promote the message that sleep contact between the mother and infant increases the chances of the infant dying from sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). But the research on which this message is based only indicates that bed-sharing can be dangerous when it occurs in the context of extreme poverty or when the mother is a smoker. Some researchers have attempted to export this message to other cultures. However, in Japan, for example, where co-sleeping is the norm, SIDS rates are among the lowest in the world, which suggests that this arrangement may actually help to prevent SIDS.

Human infants need constant attention and contact with other human beings because they are unable to look after themselves. Unlike other mammals, they cannot keep themselves warm, move about, or feed themselves until relatively late in life. It is their extreme neurological immaturity at birth and slow maturation that make the mother-infant relationship so important. The human infant's brain is only about 25% of its adult weight at birth, whereas most other mammals are born with 60-90% of their adult brain size. The young of most other mammals become independent of their parents within a year, whereas humans take 14 to 17 years to become fully developed physically, and usually longer than that to be fully independent.

Apart from being a natural characteristic of our species, constant proximity to the mother during infancy is also made necessary by the need to feed frequently. Human milk is composed of relatively low amounts of protein and fat, and high amounts of quickly absorbed and metabolized sugars. Therefore the infant's hunger cycle is short, as is the time spent in deep sleep. All of these factors seem to indicate that the custom of separating infants from their parents during sleep time is more the result of cultural history than of fundamental physiological or psychological needs. Sleep laboratory studies have shown that bed-sharing, instead of sleeping in separate rooms, almost doubled the number of breast-feeding episodes and tripled the total nightly duration of breast-feeding. Infants cried much less frequently when sleeping next to their mothers, and spent less time awake. We think that the more frequently infants are breast-fed, the less likely they are to die from cot death.

Our scientific studies of mother and infants sleeping together have shown how tightly bound together the physiological and social aspects of the mother-infant relationship really are. Other studies have shown that separation of the mother and infant has adverse consequences. Anthropological considerations also suggest that separation between the mother and infant should be minimal. Western societies must consider carefully how far and under what circumstances they want to push infants away from the loving and protective co-sleeping environment. Infants' nutritional, emotional and social needs as well as maternal responses to them have evolved in this environment for millennia.


Dr. James J. McKenna is a Professor of Anthropology and the Director of the Center for Behavioral Studies of Mother-Infant Sleep, Notre Dame University. This article first appeared in the March-April 1996 issue of "World Health", the journal of the World Health Organization.



Saturday, May 02, 2015

Mother's Day: A Baby-Saving Gift to Honor Mom



Celebrate the special mom in your life this Mother's Day by giving a powerful baby-saving gift in her honor. With your donation to Saving Our Sons, your mom will receive an email telling her that you gave in her name, and be mailed a special card and keep-sake Baby-Saving Mom magnet (as well as a few intact info cards for her to share). One lucky mom from among those honored will also win a $25.00 Amazon gift card (drawn at random on Mother's Day).

In addition, all are invited to share a photo of the baby-saving mom you know, with some words about what makes her fabulous, and we'll add your Mother's Day wishes to our Baby Saving Moms album on Facebook. [Email this to SavingSons@gmail.com]


Saving Our Sons donations in the following amounts help to cover important efforts each week: 

$20 - One expecting mother/family - materials that are sent in the form of an info pack, DVD, book, and being connected with a local resource

$25 - Five small 'Expecting?' information packages designed to introduce new families-to-be to a variety of baby-friendly subjects, including intact info

$40 - Ten 'Don't Retract' physicians' packs mailed to clinicians who are known to have forcibly retracted (and/or encouraged improper care) in the past 8 weeks.

$50 - Stocking supplies needed for 1/2 an intact info booth at a baby/maternity expo, family fair, or health conference

$60 - Materials for one expecting family AND  ten 'don't retract' packs to clinicians

$75 - Stocking of 1/2 an intact expo booth AND five 'Expecting' information packs to new families

$80 - Professionally made signs for genital autonomy demonstrations (browse past eventshttp://www.drmomma.org/2007/04/expos-events.html and find upcoming events: https://www.facebook.com/SavingOurSons/events)

$100 - Stocking of all materials needed for one baby, maternity or health expo booth, where information and resources are shared with hundreds of attendees

$150 - Booth entrance fees for one mid-sized exposition (ensuring an intact info booth is able to be established at baby, maternity, family and health fairs across the United States and internationally; See all Saving Our Sons local Intact Chapters leading expo booths: http://www.savingsons.org/p/local-chapters.html)

$300 - Booth entrance fees for one large-sized exposition (baby, maternity, and family state-wide fairs, health conferences)

For mailing to the mom in your life, include:

  • her name
  • her email address
  • her mailing address [Note: If you'd prefer to forgo mailing items, and only send a digital card, include an email address only.]
  • select the Pink Orchids or Green Zen card
  • select the Baby Feet or Baby Legs magnet

Include the above information in a note with your donation to Saving Our Sons, or email to SavingSons@gmail.com 

Email will be sent on Mother's Day morning (Sunday, May 10th) to all mothers whose addresses are received by midnight 5.9.15. Parcels will ship immediately and may take 2-5 business days to arrive depending on distance from New York.

Pink Orchid Card (above)


Green Zen Card (below)

Baby Feet Magnet (above) 
(include a note with your choice)
Baby Legs Magnet (below)

Back side of all cards includes an informative selection of facts and helpful sites: 


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Need to drop a suggestion to your loved ones? Grab any of the images below to post with a link to this page for sharing.

And THANK YOU for saving babies. 







Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Should I Circumcise My Son? The Pros and Cons of Infant Circumcision




New to the subject of infant circumcision and the benefits of the prepuce ('foreskin')? The following are resources others have found useful when looking into the subject for the first time. They are meant to be a starting point in a deeper investigation and further research for expecting parents today.

Functions of the Foreskin: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis: http://www.drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html 

Why did circumcision start as we now know it in the U.S.? Hear from some original doctors on the matter: http://www.savingsons.org/2012/07/circumcision-to-reduce-mens-sexual.html Further published commentary from physicians in the field, supporting circumcision in the United States: http://www.drmomma.org/2007/05/circumcision-brief-history-in.html

Faith Considerations on Circumcision (if this matters to an individual - resources by/for Jews, Christians, and Muslims): http://www.drmomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html

Peer reviewed research (studies published in medical journals): http://www.drmomma.org/2007/01/circumcision-studies.html

Are there medical benefits to circumcision? Read national medical statements from around the world: http://www.drmomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

Physicians' thoughts within the medical field today: FB.com/IntactCare

Well researched books written on the subject: http://astore.amazon.com/savingsons.org-20

Dr. Ryan McAllister's Georgetown video lecture, Elephant in the Hospital (also included on DVD in the info pack below): http://vimeo.com/26130057

Dr. Christopher Guest's video, Circumcision: The Whole Story: http://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

Intact Care: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html
Circumcision Care: http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet5.html

The two most common forms of circumcision in North American today: 

Gomco: http://www.savingsons.org/2011/01/neonatal-circumcision-video-for.html

Plastibell: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/08/plastibell-infant-circumcision.html [Note that the Plastibell is the type of circumcision most often referred to as a 'no-cutting' or 'no-blood' method.]

How effective is anesthesia with circumcision? http://www.drmomma.org/2008/11/the-effectiveness-of-anesthesia-for.html

Outcome Statistics: Circumcised and Intact: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/01/cut-vs-intact-outcome-statistics.html

Men speak on the subject: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303
Over 250,000 men are restoring some of what was lost to circumcision. It improves sex in a wide variety of ways. Google 'foreskin restoration' and check out any of these resources: http://www.savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: http://www.collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

8 articles published at Psychology Today: http://www.savingsons.org/2011/10/psychology-today-circumcision-series.html

For those with older sons who were circumcised: 
Public Page: FB.com/FutureSons 
Private Discussion Group: FB.com/groups/FutureSons
Related items from others with circumcised sons: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html 

What does this have to do with WOMEN? 
SexAsNatureIntendedIt.com
Book by same title: http://astore.amazon.com/savingsons.org-20

How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html

Women's Health and Male Circumcision Resource List: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

HIV/AIDS and the African Trials: www.AIDSCirc.org and the HIV resource page: http://www.drmomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

50 Reasons to Leave it Alone: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/11/50-reasons-to-leave-it-alone.html 

The Info Pack (includes a DVD with several videos and 80 pages of materials) or "Expecting?" New parent packets (materials without the DVDs or full articles): http://www.savingsons.org/p/info-pack.html

Informational items: http://www.savingsons.org/p/info-cards.html

Questions? 

Email DrMomma.org@gmail.com at any time. We have several clinicians who volunteer their time to field questions, and if we're not able to answer, we'll seek out a place to go for further information.

If you find these resources to be of use, please help support Saving Our Sons and the work done through this effort. We continue solely by volunteers' time and generosity. See current needs at: http://www.savingsons.org/p/sponsor-son-waiting-list.html or give directly: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=G6VLETWSGSR22


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Tuesday, March 24, 2015

✮ Please Support Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2015 ✮



Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2015 kicked off in March, and we need YOUR help to make this year's 7-day event a life-changing one. As advocates travel to D.C. to participate, and floods of tourists the world over gather in Washington D.C. for the height of the annual Cherry Blossom Festival, it is imperative that everyone in attendance has easy to access materials on hand. Items that parents and professionals, young and old, from all backgrounds and locations in life will want to take home with them for further review. Making this happen takes a significant amount of planning and organization on the part of many people, and it also takes financial support.

If you have never been to GIAW in D.C., allow us to paint a quick picture:

You are standing with half a dozen others in front of the U.S. Capitol, and a group of 400 senior high students come up interested in what you have to share. Their teachers and chaperones are doing their best to shuffle them quickly by for a group picture and have them file back onto the bus. A lot of the time they are yelling at students to ignore demonstrators and to 'not take anything!' You have less than 5 minutes to talk with as many of these young people -- future parents who will be determining the rate of genital autonomy in the next generation -- as you can and get items into their hands that they will not toss onto the ground or into the trash, but actually want to take back with them, look up on their phone once they're on the bus, and hold onto for curiosity's sake.

This happens every single hour. Sometimes multiple times an hour. Sun-up to sun-down. The need is great. The impact is monumental. And we need your support in this important effort.


Individuals: If you are sponsoring in honor of someone, we invite you to include a note with your gift of any amount.

Businesses and Groups: Please include a note with your organization name/URL. Sponsors will be shared with the peaceful parenting Facebook and Twitter communities, as well as the Saving Our Sons and Genital Integrity Awareness Week audiences on both social networks. Businesses donating $100 or more will also have a hyperlinked image or logo featured on the front page of DrMomma.org and SavingSons.org throughout the entire month of March. Google stats puts DrMomma readership at approximately 500,000/month, with 152,000+ on Facebook and Twitter. The Saving Our Sons community has over 53,000 active members. Sponsors will also be permanently listed at the Genital Integrity Awareness Week website and featured on the GIAW Facebook page. Visit past sponsors from 2014 and 2013.

If you have an item you wish to donate to benefit GIAW, email SavingSons@gmail.com (In the past baby wraps, carriers, cloth diapers, knitted hats, restoration devices, books and DVDs have been donated to support genital autonomy efforts. Any and all are welcome and appreciated!)

All Supporters: All who register will receive GIAW Registration materials, and attendees will also receive a name tag badge (that attaches to the lanyard) for this year's event. Register as a Supporter or Attendee below, or include a note with your donation to GIAW. You may also email SavingSons@gmail.com at any time.


GIAW Registration:

Add-on Extra Items with Registration:


Select bracelet and cards from among those here: http://www.savingsons.org/p/info-cards.html
Include a note during check-out or email to SavingSons@gmail.com If not otherwise indicated, a black 'His Body, His Choice' bracelet will be sent with an assortment of cards.

Note that the GIAW event is not registered as a federal charity as of Feb 2015, and therefore donations are not currently IRS tax deductible. All activities and events hosted happen because of voluntary efforts and grassroots action and fundraising.

On behalf of the next generation of babies to be born, and the adults they will become -
Thank you for supporting GIAW!

 

Code for sharing via email:

By Mail To:

Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Progress To Goal:
$2,420 raised (4.3.15 update)


GIAW Business Sponsors
Please visit and support these intact-friendly businesses!

Wrapsody: The Wraparound Baby Carrier
Wrapsody on Facebook

SavingGreys Martingale Collars
SavingGreys on Facebook


Placenta Benefits.info
Placenta Benefits on Facebook


Gentle Roots Doula
serving clients in upstate New York
Gentle Roots Doula on Facebook


Holistic Parenting Magazine
Holistic Parenting on Facebook
*Genital autonomy advocates can subscribe to Holistic Parenting for 10% off!
Use code: HOLISTIC when subscribing.


Dr. Jessica Rivera - The Bump Doctor
TheBumpDoc.com - Papillion, NE

Adrienne Carmack, M.D.
AdrienneCarmack.com
Author of Reclaiming My Birth Rights
Dr. Carmack on Facebook


Crunchy Mom Shop
Advocates: Take 10% off your Crunchy Mom Shop order with code: GIAW10
Crunchy Mom Shop on Facebook


Domino Pads
Domino Pads on Facebook


Peaceful Beginnings from Rosemary
Rosemary Romberg, author of Circumcision: The Painful Dilemma


CAT II Q Foreskin Restoration Device
CatStretcher.com


Intact Illinois
Public Chapter Page: FB.com/IntactIL
Discussion group for advocates within Illinois:
FB.com/groups/IntactIL

Express Pediatrics
ExpressPediatrics.com
Serving children and their families in the Hopewell Junction area of New York.
On Facebook: FB.com/ExpressPediactrics


Little Moon Birth Photography
LittleMoonBirthPhotography.weebly.com
On Facebook: FB.com/LittleMoonBirthPhotography

ManHood: The foreskin substitute for circumcised men.
Restoring penis sensitivity since 1995.
ManHood.mb.ca
On Facebook: FB.com/ManHoodCanada


Organic Lifestyle Magazine
OrganicLifestyleMagazine.com
On Facebook: FB.com/OrganicLifestyleMagazine

The National Organization of Restoring Men
NORM.org
On Facebook: FB.com/RestoringMen

Intact Michigan
Public Chapter: FB.com/IntactMI
Discussion group for advocates living or working in Michigan: FB.com/groups/IntactMI


GIAW Individual Sponsors

✭ Laurie S. 

✭ Suzanne R.

✭ Honor S.

✭ David G.

✭ Laurie P.

✭ Vivi M.
"In honor of little Phineas - a very happy, 19-months-old, intact, little man."

✭ Hope C.

✭ Karen G.

✭ Rob J.

✭ Brenna F.

✭ Melissa L.

✭ Wendy E.

✭ Gini M.
"In honor of Vladi, whose very existence unwittingly started this all - changing the course of my life, his cousin's, and that of countless other boys."

✭ Charles O.

✭ Richard P.

✭ John P.

✭ Roger H.

✭ Tabitha M.

✭ Dana C.

✭ Sabrina N.

✭ Sarah F.

✭ Ashley S.

✭ Stacey W.

✭ Nancy J.

✭ Cheryl S.

✭ Faith R.

✭ Daniel R.

✭ Natalie W.

✭ Jennifer C.

✭ Corin M.

✭ Cynthia M.

✭ William H.

✭ Nickolas K.

✭ Erin C.

✭Amber D.

✭Amber C.

✭Taylor R.

✭ Noelle L.
"In honor of Cael and Sloan, our perfect boys, and in deep gratitude for the gentle information we found when we silently stalked the Internet."

✭ Danelle F.

✭ John B.

✭ Patrick F.

✭ Christine V.

✭ Erin R.

✭ Rosemary W.







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