So God Made a Mama


So God Made a Mama


And on the 8th day, God looked down on his planned paradise and said, "I need a homemaker."

So, God made a mama.

God said I need somebody to get up early, lay out clothes, bake biscuits, fry bacon and eggs, set the table, and wake and feed four kids, and then get them on the bus on time.

So, God made a mama.

I need somebody with strong arms - strong enough to tow a sick four year old while mopping the floor, yet gentle enough to soothe the worst boo-boo with a simple kiss.

Somebody to make the beds, who'll sweep the floors, wash tons of clothes, make lunch (for a working husband), shop for groceries, pay the bills, and still have time for supper.

So, God made a mama.

God said I need somebody to gather eggs, pick tomatoes, mend broken bibs, and can make clothes and bake cake from scratch.

Someone who can give four baths, can help with homework, brush four heads of head, and love four different children equally.

So, God made a mama.

God had to have someone to give up her piece of pie, wipe tears from their eyes, give comfort for every bad dream, and take care of every lost stray the kid could bring home.

So, God made a mama.

God said I must have someone who never thinks of themselves, only takes what's left. And somebody to work from before daylight to dark, and then through the night, without ever once stopping to rest. Someone who could make gourmet meals from leftovers, who would pull up covers and gently kiss each cheek at night. It had to be someone who would check on their neighbor, rock sick kids forever, and still never complain a bit. She had to be someone who would read from the Bible, knew church was a staple, and God and family was first on her list.

So, God made a mama.


-Woody Woodruff

More from Woodruff: CowboyPoetry.com/woody.htm

 

To the Mom Fighting for Your Child's Health

By Rowyn Bakwin


A needed share for the moms in the club no one wants to join!...

I wanted to send a special Mother's Day out to the mothers here who are so very fiercely fighting for their children's health. We all have a certain amount of guilt and regret and wistfulness about our particular population of kids.

It is heartbreaking for me as a consultant to hear parents crying out for help for their children. Especially some of those older kids who have 'done it all' and were non-responders or relapsed and do not seem to be able to achieve some level of normalcy.

As a mother myself who has been desperate for her child, here are some of the things I have asked myself, and I have heard you all ask as well.

What intervention to do next?

What doctor can help me get what my child needs?

How are we going to afford this, and how can we NOT pay for it somehow, anyway?

I am a prisoner of my child's daily OCDs and rituals, as are my other kids, what is this doing to our family?

I am not crazy!

My child has MEDICAL issues and doctors will not listen to me. I am frantic to help my child, not out of my mind.

If I had only known then what I know now, my child would be healthy. 

Will my child be debilitated for the rest of his or her life?

Will he ever have friends?

Leave the house?

Have a family?

You mothers, you are heroines. 

You are (usually) not doctors and scientists and pharmacists, neurologists, immunologists. You do not have the education and background to slog through the research and try to comprehend it on 3 hours of sleep -- but you do it!

You may have to wake up to rituals to perform with your neurologically impaired child, to help quiet their frantic anxiety, rituals that make no sense and may last hours at a time, but you do them.

You may have to sacrifice some of what you give your 'well' kids to protect and nurture your sick one, and it is not fair, but you do it.

You may spend all your money, second mortgage your home, to fly your kid across the country for an intervention that may or may not work, but you do it.

Your child's life literally hangs in the balance of your choices.

And few people know that but you.

Please mothers, acknowledge yourselves.

Happy Mother's Day 💗

Mother's Day Ideas During Quarantine, or Anytime!

By Amy Weatherly
Read more at AmyWeatherly.com


Dear Husbands, ex-husbands, fathers, children, family members, or whomever it may concern:

Still haven’t gotten anything for the woman who birthed those big-headed children we all adore so much for Mother’s Day?

That stinks.

Time and social distancing are not on your side here, my friend. They are not. But I am.

Mother’s Day is not canceled, but rushing out to the mall the evening before to grab a cheesy card and a blender most definitely is.

Gifts aren’t going to be as easy this year, and I’m telling you, that woman has never put more work into keeping her family afloat and happy than she has these past couple of months. She deserves a yacht, or a phone call from Chris Pratt or something, but she will probably settle for any or all of the things listed below. You are so welcome. I’ve got your back.

1. To sleep in, or at least take a morning nap.

2. Folded Laundry.

3. To Pee Alone.

4. To Eat without someone asking her to get up and pour them a glass of milk, or stealing her food, or sneezing on her food. Maybe she could even eat while her food is still warm, I dunno. Just a thought.

5. NO SNACKS - She doesn’t want to make any other living thing any friggin snacks.

6. To take an uninterrupted shower, or better yet, a long hot bath.

7. A back rub. JUST A BACK RUB. Control yourself. You can do it, or...you know, not do it.

8. Take the kids on a bike ride for thirty minutes, so she can dance around the kitchen to her music, something other than Kidz Bop, Baby Shark, It’s Raining Tacos, or Ole Town Road.

9. Another nap.

10. Help her get the kids to smile and look at the camera for ONE SINGLE PICTURE. There is nothing she wants more than a picture with everyone looking relatively normal. Don’t make her yell. She really hates that. Bribe them if you need to, just get them to stand still, say cheese, and not whine. She wants pictures with her kids and she doesn’t have nearly enough of them. Pro tip: Hold the camera up high at an angled she looks as skinny as possible.

11. Before you load the dishwasher, ask her how she likes the dishwasher loaded and then do it the way she likes.

12. Tell her she’s beautiful.

13. Loungewear. She wants new loungewear, or maybe a new bra because hers is probably really old and disgusting. If you’re thinking “what? She loves her gray bra? I’m telling you, that thing started out nude and it’s just that nasty. Gift cards are AWESOME.

14. Gratitude for all she does. Let her feel seen and appreciated. I know it sounds crazy, but women really love that stuff. I know, right? Who knew women liked compliments? Honestly, this is the most important one. If you do everything else and miss this, you’ve missed the point. Plus, it’s free, so zero excuses.

15. To hold the remote control and pick the show.

You’ve totally got this,
Amy Weatherly

P.S. Mother’s Day is Sunday. It is this Sunday. Not Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday Friday, or three weeks away. It is THIS Sunday.

P.P.S. She loves her job more than life itself. Probably not the part where she’s been homeschooling for the past two months and learning new ways of doing math, which I don't want to get into, but the rest of it—LOVES.

Take Mom's Picture

By Mary Katherine Backstrom
Find more from Backstrom at Mom Babble on Facebook.


Dear men, husbands, people who love us,

On behalf of mamas everywhere, I have an important request: Take our picture.

Even when we complain, even when our hair is a mess. Even when we are wearing a dingy, oversized sweatshirt. Take our picture.

I know this isn’t something on the forefront of your mind, and that’s okay. We don’t need every special moment documented... but, let’s be honest. We spend a lot of time doing just that for everyone else.

Please.

Take our picture.

Even when we fuss about how “chubby” we think we look in our swimsuit. If you see us splashing and laughing loudly with our babies in the heat of a gorgeous summer day—I don’t care if we are nine months pregnant (*ahem*) Take our picture.

Even if we moan that the angle isn’t good or our smile looks a little insane, I promise you this: We want to be seen. We want to be remembered. And it means the world to us when you take our picture.

You may not realize it now, but we’ve taken hundreds of sneaky photos of you and the people you love. When we see you snuggled on the couch with our babies or playing catch in the backyard, our hearts fill with joy and we can’t help but take your picture.

Or maybe you DO realize it, and it’s a little bit annoying. I can understand that, too. But here is a little reminder of these pictures are SO dang important: One day, we won’t be around for our babies. One day, you and I will be gone and what will remain of us will be the memories we’ve captured of this beautiful life we made. One day, our kids will gather around a table and scroll through images of these precious, fleeting days. They will cry and laugh and commiserate. They will say, “Remember that vacation? Remember that day?” And it will be so, so beautiful.

But if every single picture was taken by their mama, guess who won’t be in those memories?

Men, husbands, people who love us: Take our picture.

The mother of your children deserves to be seen, documented, and remembered. Not through posed family portraits or hundreds of selfies. But as who she was—who she is NOW—in those real, special life moments.

I know we don’t make it easy. Love us enough to do it, anyways. For our sake and for yours. For the sake of our babies Take our picture.

*******





Cuddling Babies Positively Alters Genes

By David Neild for Science Alert
Published to Peaceful Parenting with permission

Cuddling Babies Positively Impacts Genetics

The amount of close and comforting contact that young infants receive doesn't just keep them warm, snug, and loved. A 2017 study says it can actually affect babies at the molecular level, and the effects can last for years. Based on the study, babies who get less physical contact and are more distressed at a young age, end up with changes in molecular processes that affect gene expression.

The team from the University of British Columbia in Canada emphasizes that it's still very early days for this research, and it's not clear exactly what's causing the change. But it could give scientists some useful insights into how touching affects the epigenome - the biochemical changes that influence gene expression in the body.

During the study, parents of 94 babies were asked to keep diaries of their touching and cuddling habits from five weeks after birth, as well as logging the behaviour of the infants – sleeping, crying, and so on. Four-and-a-half years later, DNA swabs were taken of the kids to analyse a biochemical modification called DNA methylation. It's an epigenetic mechanism in which some parts of the chromosome are tagged with small carbon and hydrogen molecules, often changing how genes function and affecting their expression.

The researchers found DNA methylation differences between "high-contact" children and "low-contact" children at five specific DNA sites, two of which were within genes: one related to the immune system, and one to the metabolic system. DNA methylation also acts as a marker for normal biological development and the processes that go along with it, and it can be influenced by external, environmental factors as well.

Then there was the epigenetic age, the biological ageing of blood and tissue. This marker was lower than expected in the kids who hadn't had much contact as babies, and had experienced more distress in their early years, compared with their actual age. "In children, we think slower epigenetic aging could reflect less favorable developmental progress," said one of the team, Michael Kobor.

In fact, similar findings were spotted in a study from 2013 looking at how much care and attention young rats were given from a very early age. Gaps between epigenetic age and chronological age have been linked to health problems in the past, but again it's too soon to draw those kind of conclusions: the scientists readily admit they don't yet know how this will affect the kids later in life. We are also talking about less than 100 babies in the study, but it does seem that close contact and cuddles do somehow change the body at a genetic level.

Of course it's well accepted that human touch is good for us and our development in all kinds of ways, but this is the first study to look at how it might be changing the epigenetics of human babies. It will be the job of further studies to work out why, and to investigate whether any long-term changes in health might appear as a consequence. "We plan to follow up on whether the 'biological immaturity' we saw in these children carries broad implications for their health, especially their psychological development," said one of the researchers, Sarah Moore. "If further research confirms this initial finding, it will underscore the importance of providing physical contact, especially for distressed infants."

The research was published in Development and Psychopathology.

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When Zoom Classes and Daily Mom Life Meet


Mom life, circa 2020 quarantine days... ;)


How to Wash Your Hands Effectively - Most Americans Aren't Doing It Right!

By Terri Pous, BuzzFeed
Read more from Pous: https://www.buzzfeed.com/terripous


I'm not looking at anyone in particular, but *pivots on heels to glare at you directly in the eye* you're probably washing your hands all wrong. Yes, you! I've said it before, and I'll say it again: When it comes to washing your hands, it is not the thought that counts.

Mere running water and a dollop of soap isn't enough to keep your hands clean and free of being germ dispatchers; you have to actually do some (pretty easy) steps to make your hand-washing count.

In this witching season for cold, flu, and all other kinds of lovely communicable illnesses, it's REALLY IMPORTANT to have nice, sanitary hands, so for once and for all, here's how to do the damn thing the right way:

1. You don't need to make the water so hot it'll boil your hands. Daniel Eiras, MD, assistant professor of infectious diseases at NYU Langone Health suggests using warm or hot water if you have a choice, but tbh any clean water will do.

2. It should take a lot longer than you're used to. Eiras says that, in total, you should be washing your hands for 15-20 seconds — and that doesn't include the time it takes to completely dry your hands (more on that later). The WHO states that the entire process, from getting your hands wet to turning off the faucet, should take 40-60 seconds. A whole minute! That's a long ass time to rub your paws against each other, but you can make it go a liiiiittle faster by singing the ABC's or "Happy Birthday" to yourself as you go. Or to everyone else, if you want to help them out and/or give them a hint.

If you're thinking 60 seconds to wash my hands? Ain't nobody got time for that, I hear you. I get it. But I'm guessing you probably also don't have time to get sick or deal with everyone that you get sick. So idk, something to think about the next time you wash your hands. See what I did there?

3. Which means you have plenty of time to show some love to all parts of your hands. Hands! They've got a lot of surface area! Making sure your palms and fingertips are clean is always a good idea, but so is getting "areas that play hard-to-get, like the spaces in between your fingers and the backs of your hands," Eiras says. Start by rubbing your hands palm to palm, and then interlace fingers and rub to access those little nooks and crannies you usually neglect. Don't forget to clean the underside of your nails, your wrists, and the backs of your fingers too, and when in doubt, do a lot of the "rotational rubbing" this WHO poster suggests (below).

4. Try to create some ~friction~ when washing. "You need friction and a lot of rubbing to get any unwanted material and germs off," Eiras says. Water alone can only do so much, and basically making one hand grind up on the other will really make the magic happen.

5. Use a towel to turn off the sink when you're done. Germs, microbes, bacteria, and all of that good stuff thrive on wet surfaces like sinks. They love them and want to set up a vacation home and retire early to them. So if you're washing up at a non-automatic sink, grab a paper towel or whatever's handy to turn off the water so that you don't undo all the good work you just did.

6. Finally, none of this matters if you don't fully dry your hands when you're done. Repeat after me: Pants are not a suitable substitute for a paper towel or hand dryer. Just like touching a wet faucet handle after washing your hands negates the whole process, leaving the bathroom with wet hands OR rubbing them on your not-so-clean pants re-grimes your hands reeeeeal quick. And after spending 60 whole seconds sanitizing, why would you want to do that?

7. And yes, you should wash your hands after you go to the bathroom, but you should also do it a lot of other times, too. A big part of proper hand-washing etiquette is knowing when to do it. If you don't wash your hands after being on the toilet, first of all, how dare you? Anyway, I'm guessing most of you at least *try* to fully wash your hands after going to the bathroom, which is great! But there are also many other times you should trot off to the bathroom to wash up, including, but not limited to:

• After you sneeze
• After you blow your nose
• After you cough
• After touching garbage
• After preparing food
• After being in contact with an animal
• After touching any "high touch" surface in a public area, aka a doorknob, light switch, railing, gas pump, ATM button, or subway pole

Basically, if you feel like you've come in contact with anything gross, or anything anyone else has touched, just give 'em a wash. If you can't summon a bathroom or running water yourself, store-bought hand sanitizer is fine for use in the car and on the go.




Quercetin, Cancer, and COVID-19



Quercetin is a potent anticancer flavonoid, and is now being considered as something that may lesson the severity of COVID-19. Quercetin is highest in these foods: organic apples, red onions, red grapes, raspberries, cranberries, dark cherries, green tea, cacao, citrus fruits, and dark green leafy vegetables. 

In supplement form via Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QDimYE 🍇 

Related Reading on Cancer

Quercetin: The Most Powerful Flavonoid in the Galaxy! https://www.chrisbeatcancer.com/most-powerful-flavonoid-in-the-galaxy/ 

Effects of low dose quercetin: Cancer cell-specific inhibition of cell cycle progression: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2736626/ 

Quercetin in Cancer Treatment, Alone or in Combination with Conventional Therapeutics? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26264923 

Quercetin: a natural compound for ovarian cancer treatment: https://ovarianresearch.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13048-019-0530-4 

Quercetin induces human colon cancer cells apoptosis by inhibiting the nuclear factor-kappa B Pathway: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25829782 

Polyphenols in Colorectal Cancer: Current State of Knowledge including Clinical Trials and Molecular Mechanism of Action: https://www.hindawi.com/journals/bmri/2018/4154185/ 

The effects of quercetin on SW480 human colon carcinoma cells: a proteomic study: https://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1475-2891-4-11 

Resveratrol and Quercetin in Combination Have Anticancer Activity in Colon Cancer Cells and Repress Oncogenic microRNA-27a: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/01635581.2012.725194 

Related Research with COVID-19 

Can quercetin help us to avoid the threat of coronavirus infection? https://www.naturalhealth365.com/quercetin-covid-19-studies-3337.html 

Biopharma products in development for COVID-19: https://www.bioworld.com/COVID19products 


Coronavirus Episode 9: Can Quercetin Help COVID-19? https://regenexx.com/blog/coronavirus-episode-9-can-quercetin-help-covid-19/ 



Resources compliments of Healing Hubby

Ode to My Placenta

Background art by Mamapaints on Etsy


Ode to My Placenta

How do I love? Let me count the ways.

First, I love your beauty, so rich and warm and red
Placenta you’re my pillow in my coziest womb-bed.

Second, you bring nourishment and liquid from my mom
When she eats well, then I eat well, that’s good because I’m young.

Third, you take away my waste and metabolize the rest
It goes out through Mom’s kidneys, no work, no fuss, no mess.

Fourth, you’re a barrier to keep our bloods apart
For mom and I are separate beings, though connected at the start.

Fifth, you’re my advocate - you tell my mom what to do
Your hormones keep me growing and that makes mom healthy too.

Sixth, you bring oxygen each time mom takes a breath
I need a lot of clean, fresh air because my lungs don’t work quite yet.

Seven, you’re my thermostat - you keep my womb just right
Mom sweats for me in the daytime, and warms me up at night.

Lastly, you’re my treasure chest of blood for when I’m born
The extra meal that fills me up to birth me in top form.

So, please don’t cut my cord too soon, and don’t pull on it too
I’ll call for my placenta when I am safely through.

And when you see this wondrous thing that grew me up so well
Say thank you to the God who made us from one cell.

-Sarah Buckley, M.D.
author of Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering: A Doctor's Guide to Natural Childbirth and Gentle Early Parenting Choices

Placenta Art by Mom Tribe Ceramics
Photography for Etsy Businesses by Soleil Life



Circumcision on Hold During COVID-19 Pandemic, Research Intact Care


In this uncertain time, non-essential surgeries are on hold, and this often includes infant circumcision

Use this time to research proper intact care, and the functions of the foreskin

You may find that keeping him intact is the very best for your sweet baby!

💜💙

• Intact Care: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html

• Functions of the Foreskin: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

• Not 'Just Skin': http://www.savingsons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html

• Do NOT Retract baby bands for birth, the hospital, clinical visits, surgery, babysitters, daycare, nursery, etc.: https://www.etsy.com/shop/SavingOurSons?section_id=20753765

• Physician Do NOT Retract packet: https://www.etsy.com/listing/538608349/physician-do-not-retract-prevention

IntactBaby.org/research | SavingSons.org | Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole | Saving Our Sons Community

Foreskin Facts!

I'm Intact - Do NOT Retract Soft Baby Bands


A handy little soft baby band reads: Do NOT Circumcise / Do NOT Retract for those birthing in a U.S. hospital or birth center (and reusable for clinical visits or babysitters as a reminder going forward to not retract). These small bands come with intact care materials which Peaceful Parenting families have found to be incredibly useful for hospital charts and staff.

Found at Etsy here.

Intact Care Resources: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html

Safe space groups:



Photo courtesy of Elana at the Intact Jewish Network









Should I Circumcise My Son? The Pros and Cons of Infant Circumcision



New to the subject of infant circumcision and the benefits of the prepuce (foreskin)? The following are resources many families have found useful when looking at the subject for the first time. They are meant to be a starting point into deeper investigation and further research that is widely available today. If you only have a short period of time to spend on this topic, a blue star marks films with physicians' statements who are in practice today, as well as medical professionals' materials. If you're interested in joining in conversation with others, the following groups are safe spaces to bring up related questions: Saving Our Sons CommunityIntact: Healthy, Happy, WholeRaising BoysIt's a Boy!Keeping Future Sons IntactPeaceful Intact EducationPeaceful Parenting Community

★ Functions of the Foreskin: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

★ Foreskin and its 16+ Functions (not 'just skin'): http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html

★ Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis: http://www.DrMomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html

Why did circumcision start as we now know it in the U.S.? Hear from some original doctors on the matter:
A Brief History in Physicians' Own Wordshttp://www.DrMomma.org/2007/05/circumcision-brief-history-in.html
Circumcision to Reduce Men's Pleasurehttp://www.SavingSons.org/2012/07/circumcision-to-reduce-mens-sexual.html

★ Are there medical benefits to circumcision? Read national medical statements from around the world: http://www.DrMomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

Physicians' thoughts within the medical field todayFB.com/IntactCare
• Notably, Dr. Morton Frisch: Time for U.S. Parents to Reconsider the Acceptability of Infant Male Circumcisionhttps://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/time-for-us-parents-to-reconsider-the-acceptability-of-infant-male-circumcision_b_7031972.html
• Peer reviewed research (studies published in medical journals): http://www.DrMomma.org/2007/01/circumcision-studies.html

Well researched BOOKS written on the subject:
Marked in Your Fleshhttps://amzn.to/2ONyB34
Circumcision: A Historyhttps://amzn.to/2vkxwrk
What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Circumcisionhttps://amzn.to/2O8R5d5
Doctors Re-examine Circumcisionhttps://amzn.to/2OdfSwN
Circumcision, The Hidden Traumahttps://amzn.to/2OcqWKt
Circumcision Exposedhttps://amzn.to/2viVpQ7
The Foreskin and Why You Should Keep Ithttps://amzn.to/2M4qiBl
Circumcision: A Jewish Perspectivehttps://amzn.to/2AJju7C
Celebrating Brit Shalomhttps://amzn.to/2nc0eWN

 VIDEO: Dr. Ryan McAllister Georgetown University video lecture, Elephant in the Hospital (also included on DVD in the Saving Our Sons Info Pack): http://www.library.georgetown.edu/gelardin/showcase/entries/circumcision-elephant-hospital

 VIDEO: Dr. Christopher Guest, Circumcision: The Whole Story: http://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

★ VIDEO: American Circumcision documentary on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81000861

VIDEO: Whose Body, Whose Rights? Award-winning circumcision documentary: http://www.SavingSons.org/2017/01/whose-body-whose-rights-circumcision.html

VIDEO: The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: Collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

VIDEO: Penn & Teller: Bullsh*t Circumcision (Season 3, Episode 1): https://www.bitchute.com/video/9XgdXGUaGy5H/

★ Intact Care: Drmomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html
Circumcision Care: Nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet5.html

The two most common forms of circumcision in North American today: 
• Gomco: http://www.Savingsons.org/2011/01/neonatal-circumcision-video-for.html
• Plastibell: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/08/plastibell-infant-circumcision.html [Note that Plastibell is the type of circumcision most often mistakenly referred to as a 'no-cutting' or 'no-blood' method.]

Outcome Statistics (Circumcised vs. Intact): http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/01/cut-vs-intact-outcome-statistics.html

Men speakhttp://www.SavingSons.org/2017/04/men-speak.html | MenMatterToo.org/men
• Facebook conversations by men: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303

Over 250,000 men are restoring some of what was lost to circumcision. It improves sexual pleasure in a wide variety of ways. Google Foreskin Restoration and check out any of these resources: http://www.Savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

Psychology Today article collection: http://Savingsons.org/2011/10/psychology-today-circumcision-series.html

For those with older sons who were circumcised: 
Keeping Future Sons Intact Public Page: FB.com/FutureSons 
Discussion Group: FB.com/groups/FutureSons
Articles written by those with circumcised sons: http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html 

What does this have to do with WOMEN? 
• Sex As Nature Intended It: SexAsNatureIntendedIt.com
  Book by same title: https://amzn.to/2AEyUde
• How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html
• Women's Health and Male Circumcision Resource List: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

Faith Considerations on Circumcision
• Resources by/for Jews, Christians, and Muslims: http://www.DrMomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html
• For Jews - Intact Jewish Network
• For Muslims - Intact Muslim Network 

HIV/AIDS and the African Trials: http://www.DrMomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

50 Reasons to Leave it Alone: http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/11/50-reasons-to-leave-it-alone.html 

If you'd like to join a community of parents (many with both circumcised and intact sons) to ask questions while making your decision, you are welcome to the Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole group. Everyone is welcome to this safe-space, non-venting community group. The Saving Our Sons Community Group is for those who are already pro-intact advocates, and families raising intact sons.


For Sharing

★ The Info Pack (includes a DVD with several videos and full length articles); the smaller Expecting Pack; Postcards for a Friend; or have a professional exchange online correspondence via email or Facebook message by writing to SavingSons(at)gmail.com

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Questions? 
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Tasks to Do If You Have a Terminal Illness


There were an estimated 1.4 million people in hospice care in 2015 in the United States, according to the CDC. And, according to the National Cancer Institute, for every 100,000 people, 163.5 people die of cancer in the United States each year based on data taken between 2011-2015.

No matter how much you may want to deny it—death is coming for all of us eventually. The best thing to do is to find your own ways of making peace with it, make a positive change, and try to live in the present moment. Here are four ways to work through it.

1. See a therapist.

Living in New York City can be enough of a struggle as it is. It's almost imaginable to think about living in New York and dealing with a terminal illness. While you may be tempted to live with your problems given your limited time, there is never time to take your mental health lightly. As you’re dealing with life transitions, it’s important to have a therapist around to help you cope. By finding an NYC therapist you can find professional help that'll get you in the right state of mind to enjoy the remainder of your life.

The trained therapists living in New York City and working for the Therapy Group of NYC are prepared to help you with all the mental health challenges that tend to come with the end of our lives. These mental health counselors are also ready to create a safe space to help you deal with any other mental health care issue you may have been avoiding such as the goal of greater self-awareness, couples therapy, unresolved issues with a family member, life transitions, sexual abuse, substance use, hurtful past experiences, and low self-esteem. Finding the right therapist can truly be key to living your last days with peace of mind.

While it can take a few sessions to get a sense of the right “fit” with a new therapist or psychologist, you should leave the first session feeling heard by your therapist. If you’re unable to afford the costs of being one of the new clients in New York City, consider looking into an in-network therapist that may be included in your insurance plan.

2. Consider cremation.

According to a 2016 article in TIME, traditional burial is becoming a thing of the past. They found that the cremation rate was 49 percent in the U.S. compared to the National Funeral Directors Association’s burial rate which was at 45 percent. Not only is cremation becoming more popular, but it’s also, generally, a more cost-effective way of dealing with human remains.

While it may not be pleasant to think about, consider looking into a crematorium that can offer the type of funeral service that best fits your wishes. Not only will this guarantee that the funeral home that takes care of your memorial service follows your wishes, but it saves your loved ones the painful experience of making plans after you’re gone. With Heritage Cremation Provider you will receive assistance from a funeral director that understands the ins and outs of the cremation process and can guide you in making decisions regarding what you wish to be done with your human remains and what your wishes are regarding a memorial service.

This wonderful, budget-friendly funeral home also provides rental caskets for presenting the body for the funeral service before cremation. The funeral home will take care of all the cremation process after the service and then put your remains where you wish (in an urn or mausoleum, for example).

3. Make end-of-life decisions.

Thinking about your death can be terrifying, to say the least. In fact, according to a survey conducted by Statista, 11 percent of people said that they were “very afraid of death.” This fact, however, doesn’t get you out of handling your will. Not only is it important to plan your funeral service, but it’s also vital to get in touch with your lawyer and make out a will, make decisions about how you would like to pass (do not resuscitate (DNR) forms, pain management, etc.), and pick the right person for your power of attorney.

4. Find what matters to you and do it.

In an article published in Psychology Today in 2018, Dr. Cortney S. Warren shared a blog post written by her mother, Dr. Karen J. Warren, after she was diagnosed with a terminal illness. Karen Warren wrote seven questions to confront when you’re dying. Perhaps, the most important being — “what do I want?” and “what really matters?”

By addressing these questions, she found a way to live her remaining days doing the things she loved, and she found what gave her life meaning. By the end of the blog post, Karen is actually optimistic about dying because she got a chance to resolve issues in her relationships, prepare herself, and, in her words, "[live] fully in the present."


Positive Birth Affirmations

By Neve Spicer © 2018


Positive Birth Affirmations 

Regularly practicing positive birth affirmations during pregnancy can have a powerful effect on your mind and body when it comes to birthing your baby. They can help you to achieve the calm and controlled birth that you want.

There is nothing 'airy-fairy' about positive affirmations. Just ask sport psychologists. They are well aware that an athlete's frame of mind directly affects how their body functions. Confidence and positive belief improve physical performance. This principle holds even truer as a woman progresses through labor; her calm and confident mindset help her uterus (aka Wonder Muscle) to function optimally. This, in turn, creates the best chance of a quick and easy delivery. 

But here's the thing:

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) research has shown that around 80% of our 'self-talk' (ie, our internal dialogue) is negative. Our beliefs are imprinted on us from an early age but, sadly, these are often negative. It’s very common for women to have fears and negative assumptions surrounding birth. Perhaps these stem from inaccurate stereotypes on TV, or women sharing birthing 'war stories'. Either way, they are neither necessary nor helpful.

The good news is that we can literally reprogram our brains. It's actually pretty simple. Afterall, our brain can only hold on to a few pieces of information at a time. By repeating positive affirmations, they soon 'squeeze out' the negative thoughts, leaving your subconscious pleasantly full of positive beliefs about birth. Emotionally, you'll notice a sense of confidence and calm as you approach your baby's beautiful birth.

I'm passionate about positive birth affirmations. They played a powerful role as I birthed both of my children. (Pictured is the moment my second child, Dara, was born into water at home. It was a beautiful experience.) That's why I chose to bring together the most gorgeous and effective affirmations that I could find. Here they are, below, in one place accompanied by the stunning birth art of Amanda Greavette.

How to get the most out of these affirmations:

• Read through the list of affirmations.
• Choose the statements you like the most.
• Cut them out and put them somewhere obvious (eg, walls, mirrors, or in your handbag)
• When you see them, say them!



Neve is a natural birthing advocate and mother-of-two. She blogs at WeTheParents.org.

Birthing (group)


Positive Birthing Affirmations (Printable Poster)

Positive Birthing Affirmations (Printable Poster)

 • Peace Breathe Birth
• My Body is NOT a Lemon
• TRUST BIRTH
• Birthing Goddess
• Women of Earth: Take Back Birth!




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