Texas City, Texas Nurse-In Sign in Support of Breastfeeding Mother Removed from Pool

Angie Dunn with her sign at the Texas City Nurse-In.

Angie Dunn's sign at the Nessler Family Aquatic Center Nurse-In in Texas City, Texas reads, "Out of Milk since '99, but like a good bra STILL SUPPORTIVE! #NormalizeBreastfeeding"

She writes, "It was all about that sweet mommy and her babies. She is such a nice lady. She walked up and gave me a hug and I just melted. I think things will turn around in a positive way for her and the other moms from this point forward."

Misty and her baby, 10 months old.

On June 8, 2019, breastfeeding mother, Misty Daugereaux, was forced to leave the center because she was breastfeeding her 10 month old infant. This action violates Texas law, which protects mothers and their nursing babies of any age in locations where moms are otherwise permitted to be.

Misty writes, "Stand for nothing, and you'll fall for anything. I got kicked out of Nessler Family Aquatica In Texas City today for BREASTFEEDING MY SON! First, I had a lifeguard come from behind me, as I was discretely soothing my crying baby, and told me I couldn't breastfeed at the public pool. Then the manager told me I had to cover up/follow the rules or leave. Then a Texas City Police Deputee showed up and made me leave. I’m so hurt, embarrassed and ashamed that this is what Texas City stands for. Their employees should be educated! Their manger could have used this moment to educate her staff! Yet I was escorted out with two 4 year olds and my 10m old on my hip - tears pouring down my face. My son asked, 'Momma why won’t they let you feed MAXX?' I was alone not wanting to cause a scene and scare my kids. To the momma that stood up for me: THANK YOU!"

#NIP #NursingInPublic BREASTFEEDING #AbolishLactiphobia

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Bumper Sticker Variations other STILL SUPPORTIVE former breastfeeding moms have received.

Out of Milk Since '02. Like a Good Bra, STILL SUPPORTIVE! Normalize Breastfeeding.

Cuddling Babies Positively Alters Genes

By David Neild for Science Alert
Published to Peaceful Parenting with permission

Cuddling Babies Positively Impacts Genetics

The amount of close and comforting contact that young infants receive doesn't just keep them warm, snug, and loved. A 2017 study says it can actually affect babies at the molecular level, and the effects can last for years. Based on the study, babies who get less physical contact and are more distressed at a young age, end up with changes in molecular processes that affect gene expression.

The team from the University of British Columbia in Canada emphasizes that it's still very early days for this research, and it's not clear exactly what's causing the change. But it could give scientists some useful insights into how touching affects the epigenome - the biochemical changes that influence gene expression in the body.

During the study, parents of 94 babies were asked to keep diaries of their touching and cuddling habits from five weeks after birth, as well as logging the behaviour of the infants – sleeping, crying, and so on. Four-and-a-half years later, DNA swabs were taken of the kids to analyse a biochemical modification called DNA methylation. It's an epigenetic mechanism in which some parts of the chromosome are tagged with small carbon and hydrogen molecules, often changing how genes function and affecting their expression.

The researchers found DNA methylation differences between "high-contact" children and "low-contact" children at five specific DNA sites, two of which were within genes: one related to the immune system, and one to the metabolic system. DNA methylation also acts as a marker for normal biological development and the processes that go along with it, and it can be influenced by external, environmental factors as well.

Then there was the epigenetic age, the biological ageing of blood and tissue. This marker was lower than expected in the kids who hadn't had much contact as babies, and had experienced more distress in their early years, compared with their actual age. "In children, we think slower epigenetic aging could reflect less favorable developmental progress," said one of the team, Michael Kobor.

In fact, similar findings were spotted in a study from 2013 looking at how much care and attention young rats were given from a very early age. Gaps between epigenetic age and chronological age have been linked to health problems in the past, but again it's too soon to draw those kind of conclusions: the scientists readily admit they don't yet know how this will affect the kids later in life. We are also talking about less than 100 babies in the study, but it does seem that close contact and cuddles do somehow change the body at a genetic level.

Of course it's well accepted that human touch is good for us and our development in all kinds of ways, but this is the first study to look at how it might be changing the epigenetics of human babies. It will be the job of further studies to work out why, and to investigate whether any long-term changes in health might appear as a consequence. "We plan to follow up on whether the 'biological immaturity' we saw in these children carries broad implications for their health, especially their psychological development," said one of the researchers, Sarah Moore. "If further research confirms this initial finding, it will underscore the importance of providing physical contact, especially for distressed infants."

The research was published in Development and Psychopathology.

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Dads, and Others: TAKE PICTURES of Mom and Her Kids!

By Jennifer Rose Bush
Originally on Facebook

Jennifer writes:

I’m going to address a super common issue that moms face just as a PSA. You may roll your eyes but it’s a thing.

Dads, other moms, partners, family members — TAKE PICTURES OF MOM + HER BABY.

Do it from the jump.

I just realized I didn’t get a pic of me and Frank today, and I was super sad. Then I realized he was gardening with me this morning and it was a perfect photo opp not taken. I thought of a few other sweet moments I would’ve loved to have saved that are just a memory now, too. If you look through most mother’s photos — the ones of them with their kids are either expensive professional sessions that we had to beg to get done, or blurry, less than flattering selfies — and if they aren’t, they are often taken with resistance, eye rolls, and grunts.

Just take the damn picture. 📸

Do it when she’s looking or when she’s not.

Catch the special moments because she sure does and she wants some, too! We get lost behind the lens, in the background. Pictures are so important to us. They carry us on through time. They remind us of the big deals and the little ones, too.

So tonight I snuck up to my baby’s room and took one of us as our last day under two while he was sleeping. My little baby is growing up and I’m thankful I have documented it so thoroughly, but I sure do wish I had some special photos of us together.

That’s one of my biggest pieces of advice to new parents — it’ll mean so much for years to come. 🖤

Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, Welcome Their New Prince at Home

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle welcome their son on May 6, 2019 after a beautiful homebirth.

An elated Prince Harry announced this morning from outside their Frogmore Cottage that he and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, welcomed their baby boy into the world last night. Present was Meghan's mother and her chosen birth team. The Duchess was previously critiqued by media tabloids for establishing her birth plan and privacy guidelines for herself and her baby -- we commend her on these proactive steps! 

Prince Harry continues with the wonder of a father who has just been a part of primal homebirth, "It was amazing. Absolutely incredible. I'm so proud of my wife. It's been the most amazing experience I could ever have possibly imagined. How any woman does what they do is beyond comprehension, but we're both absolutely thrilled." 

Prior to the births of Prince William (1982) and Prince Harry (1984), it was tradition to cut baby boys born into the royal family (though uncommon in the rest of England and most of the world today). However, Princess Diana bucked tradition and stood up for her sons and their best interests. She kept them intact, and the assumption is that her grandsons will also remain intact, healthy, happy, and whole for a lifetime. 

It was amazing! says Prince Harry of the homebirth of his son on May 6, 2019.
Graphic courtesy of Earth Mama Birth, Michigan

Princess Diana bucked royal tradition with her own sons when she kept them intact!
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Breaking the Cycle: Princess Diana says NO to Circumcision in the Royal Family

Princess Diana, Prince William, and Prince Harry

The beloved Princess Diana bucked royal tradition in 1982, and again in 1984, when she chose to keep her boys intact and not circumcise Prince William and Prince Harry. In addition, she stood up to both Queen Elizabeth and her husband, Prince Charles, who intended to cut the boys, as was customary for royal lines. Despite the majority of men in the world remaining happily intact for a lifetime, including virtually all men in England, royal-born baby boys were set apart from others by being cut at birth. In order to protect her babies and keep them whole, Diana made it clear that her sons would be treated gently from the beginning, and in doing so broke the cycle that would pave the way for Prince William and Prince Harry's own future sons (Prince George, 2013, Prince Louis, 2018, and Prince Harry's son, 2019) to remain intact as well.

Roger DesMoulins notes, "It is a matter of public record that Queen Elizabeth had her three sons circumcised, following a royal family precedent set 2-3 generations before. In the 1870s and 80s, the British upper middle and upper class decided that the penis should be bald, to discourage masturbation. I bet the royals simply followed an aristocratic practice of that era. Diana, however, was a trained preschool teacher who had worked before her marriage. In the course of that job, I would assume she saw natural little boys. If you've seen natural children, you generally cannot stomach seeing those that are cut. Thus a royal custom of recent origin presumably came to an end."

Shane Brewster writes, "Diana approached circumcision like she did all aspects of her life. She looked upon it, questioned its validity, and did what she felt was right, even when it meant standing up against the traditions of the royal family. Diana broke the cycle and kept her boys whole. She was a woman who stood her ground in the face of opposition, and refused to back down. She fought for what was right and was unashamedly honest at a time, and in a place where that was unheard of -- breaking barriers and making headway in various uncharted territories. It was this character of honesty, of doing the right thing simply because it was the right thing, that we believe endeared so many people to her. In that way we believe it's appropriate to honor her memory in a way that shows the world what we've learned from 'The People's Princess' -- Be unafraid to question, even in the face of opposition. Do what is right and let those choices guide your life and the lives you touch into a better place. Question circumcision. Break the cycle."

Princess Diana was also known to be an incredibly warm and nurturing mother, standing up for what she believed best for her children. She refused to formula feed, breastfeeding her babies herself (despite being told not to do so as Princess of Wales), and spent a great deal of time bonding, playing with, and teaching her sons. She was critiqued publicly for spending so much time with her boys, taking them out on adventures to "dirty" kid-friendly places for fun, and was intricately involved in each of their daily lives.

As Princess Diana did, you too can break the cycle in your family.
Even if you have circumcised children, there are thousands keeping future sons intact.

Princess Diana and sons, Prince William and Prince Harry, out on an adventure together.
Princess Diana bucked royal tradition at the time, and kept her two sons intact.
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Authentic Postpartum Positivity and Beauty

By The Garcia Diaries
Originally on Facebook

“Is this an advertisement for why women should get tummy tucks?”

“Why aren’t there any fit women in this photo? Not every postpartum body is fat and loose.”⠀

“Why has society made it ok to bash women who bounce back yet glorify women who can’t lose weight?”

“How about dieting?”

“Posts like this bother me. Not losing the weight is a choice.”

“I’m a mother of 4 but I’m also a smokin’ hot wife because that’s my duty. No way I’d be happy or settle to look like this.”

“Photos like this tear women apart.”

“So, you’re saying that skinny women don’t have real bodies?”

These are just a small sample of the comments we’ve received over the past few days since our original post went live.

It’s a shame that the point has been completely missed by some of the people that have taken time out of their day to comment. (The point being: the four of us have been friends online for a long time and finally met in real life, and took a last minute photo together...of our different postpartum body types...to show that all body types are beautiful.)

If you look at this photo and your first thought is, “why are there no skinny women?” you have bigger issues to deal with, my friend.

You can look literally anywhere: film, TV, Instagram, magazines, video games and see skinny women. Other body types are absolutely underrepresented in media, and it causes women with those body types to feel less than... to feel like they’re not good enough.⠀ ⠀

I want to encourage anyone who felt the need to leave any of the above comments to dig deeper, self-reflect, gain some perspective, learn. Your comment says WAY more about you than it does about us.⠀ ⠀

Be better.

-The Garcia Diaries

Nursing to Sleep: What we hear vs. what we should hear

Nursing to sleep

What we hear: 

Your baby is using you as a pacifier.
This is going to become a 'bad habit.'
It's wrong.
You're going to be the only one who can put your baby to sleep forever.
Nursing is a negative sleep association. 
This is going to become a sleep crutch.

What we should hear: 

This is biologically normal.
All carry mammals nurse to sleep in infancy.
Countless moms have done this before, and are nursing to sleep right now.
This is calming.
Your oxytocin is flowing well. 
This is beautiful.
This is nourishing. 
Nursing to sleep will fade away on its own when the time is right for my baby. 
This builds trust. 
Nursing to sleep encourages a hearty supply.
Sleep hormones from nursing to sleep allow my baby to fall asleep naturally. 
This will not last forever and be over before I know it... 


"Birth Brat" The Duchess of Sussex and What This Says About Birth Culture

By Megan Rossiter, Positively Birthing

Duchess of Sussex called a "Birth Brat" for basic human rights.

You might have seen the news recently that the Duchess of Sussex has been described as a 'birth brat,' which I can only assume is the journalistic birth equivalent to bridezilla...

"What was she asking for?!" you might be wondering. "Lobster after her birth?" "A jewel encrusted birth pool?"


According to the press, the Duchess wanted to be able to choose her own healthcare providers, her own place of birth, and not be subjected to a photo shoot by the world's media immediately after giving birth.

Oh! Like... basic human rights, then?

The fact that requests like this -- or even more specific choices (which we obviously don't know Meghan's preferences on), such as whether or not to have a vaginal examination, whether or not to have continuous monitoring in labor, whether to accept a sweep at 40 weeks, etc. -- are seen as 'unusual', or 'being difficult' says a hell of a lot more about our society, women's rights, and the narrative around birth than it does about The Duchess of Sussex!

We don't go to the hair dressers and get told, "Well, you're turning 40 now, so it's time to get a crop style. I can see a little grey in there so we must dye it. You have a big forehead, so I'm just going to cut you a quick fringe..." And if we DID get treated like this we'd leave the hair dressers, and tell all our friends not to go to that salon!

Why is birth any different?

Why is the default expectation that the minute we become pregnant our bodies become the property of other people? Whether that be friends, family, or even total strangers expressing their opinions about what we do, or what we eat during pregnancy, or our plans for our births... or during labor itself when it is expected that a woman walk into a hospital and say, "Okay, get the baby out - do whatever you want, whatever it takes."

In all our courses at Positively Birthing we focus a lot on what your choices are, and how to take control of them. You're not being difficult, or a brat, for having your own thoughts and opinions about what you want for your birth!

From the hundreds of women I've worked with, and hundreds more birth stories I've heard, THIS is the single most important part of getting a positive birth experience: your choices, what you want for your own birth, your body, your baby. Not hypnobirthing, not being in a pool, not where you give birth - but deciding things for YOURSELF, and then being supported fully in these decisions.

Before your birth, research everything.


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