Mary's Real Raw Birth of Baby Jesus



sometimes I wonder
if Mary breastfed Jesus.
if she cried out when he bit her
or if she sobbed when he would not latch.
and sometimes I wonder
if this is all too vulgar
to ask in a church
full of men
without milk stains on their shirts
or coconut oil on their breasts
preaching from pulpits off limits to the Mother of God.
but then I think of feeding Jesus,
birthing Jesus,
the expulsion of blood
and smell of sweat,
the salt of a mother’s tears
onto the soft head of the Salt of the Earth,
feeling lonely
and tired
hungry
annoyed
overwhelmed
loving
and I think,
if the vulgarity of birth is not
honestly preached
by men who carry power but not burden,
who carry privilege but not labor,
who carry authority but not submission,
then it should not be preached at all.
because the real scandal of the Birth of God
lies in the cracked nipples of a
14 year old
and not in the sermons of ministers
who say women
are too delicate
to lead.

-Kaitlin Hardy Shetler

Artwork by Natalie Lennard - Miss Aniela: MissAniela.com

Microbiome of Home Birth is Safer than Hospital Birth for Babies

Myth: Hospitals are cleaner.
Fact: The microbiome of your home is safer than hospital microbes.
Photo by Aimee Preston for Home Birth Aotearoa, New Zealand

By Home Birth Aotearoa

Let's talk about the microbiome!

We often hear about how dirty, untidy homes can be a hazard to babies -- and wouldn't you rather have a nice, clean hospital bed?

The reality is that sterility is not an ideal birth space, and that the bacteria that do survive in the hospital setting are dangerous.

Birth at home sets you and baby up for a diverse and robust microbiome.

Myth: Hospitals are cleaner.

Fact: The microbiome of your home is safer than hospital microbes. 


Dig into related reading on why this is the case:

Homebirth and the Microbiome: https://midwiferytoday.com/mt-articles/homebirth-and-the-microbiome/ 

Babies born at home have more diverse, beneficial bacteria:
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/10/181031080557.htm 

Babies born at home have more diverse bacteria:
https://www.futurity.org/home-birth-diverse-microbiome-1901502-2/ 

Home birth may start babies off with health promoting microbes:
http://theconversation.com/home-birth-may-start-babies-off-with-health-promoting-microbes-119045

Rethinking Sterile: The Hospital Microbiome:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4080534/ 

Rate of contamination of hospital privacy curtains on a burns and plastic surgery ward: a cross-sectional study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/28413115 

Hospital Acquired Infections:
https://www.amboss.com/us/knowledge/Nosocomial_infections 

The most dangerous germs in the hospital may be those (people) bring with them:
https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2017/05/most-dangerous-germs-hospital-may-be-those-you-bring-you


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New Baby Visitor Guide
Available for sharing with clients via Etsy.

Birth Dilation via Halloween Pumpkins

Labor dilation demonstrated by carved pumpkins.

One fabulous, fun way to demo dilation ala pumpkins! ๐Ÿงก๐ŸŽƒ

This dilation pumpkin set-up was created by workers at the Royal Oldham Hospital in Greater Manchester, Lancashire, England as part of a pumpkin decorating competition.

We just love it!

Happy Halloween!


Royal Oldham Hospital Midwives


Related Community Groups: 

Birthing (more holistic)

Pregnant Moms Due This Year (more mainstream)

Peaceful Parenting Community

Saving Our Sons Community

Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole

CoSleeping

Breastfeeding

Dilation stages during labor.

Before your baby arrives, research everything!

Mother's Account Disabled for Tandem Nursing Photo

Anthony Wanosik writes:

My wife's [Facebook] account was disabled because of this picture! She did a good thing, and Facebook is punishing her for it! Help spread the word.


Thank you for nursing in public! Breastfeeding encouragement cards to share with mothers you see at Etsy.

Breastfeeding Community




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What Friendship Looks Like - Mom Support


This is what friendship looks like.๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ

I am currently walking through the hardest season of my life, and as mamas we feel like we’ve always got to put on our big girl pants and just muscle through. Never let ‘em see you sweat, right?

Oh girl... if there’s one thing this season has taught me, it’s that that sort of lie is terribly dangerous to believe.

I needed my people today. I thought I just needed to call them up and cry about what was happening, and then while on the phone, my sweet friend asked me such an important question. She asked me to just say what I needed and wanted most. I told her that I didn’t want to be alone. Her response, "I’m on my way."

I started in with all of the reasons she couldn’t and shouldn’t come...

My house is a disaster.
I don’t want to burden you.
It’s such a long drive.

 Her response, "Sister, I don’t care about any of that. You said you don’t want to be alone, so I’m coming." Not only did she make the trek from Greeley to Fort Collins, but she picked up another sweet friend along the way.

They picked up lunch, they walked into my house, gave me the biggest hugs, and asked, "What can we do?"

My disaster of a house? They helped me clean it and assured me it wasn’t that bad.

They let me cry, they made me laugh, we listened to music, and most importantly... I. Wasn’t. Alone. ๐Ÿ’•

Mama, if you’re going through a rough season... know that you don’t have to do it by yourself. You don’t even have to know what you need — just start by asking to not be alone. I know there is someone in your life who will say to you, "I’m on my way" if only you’d ask.

And Mama if you have a friend who you know is going through it, just offer to come and be there with her. Actually, don’t offer...just tell her you’re coming. Because I guarantee she wants that more than anything, and she’s having a hard time being able to say it.

Praying for all of you walking the tough roads right now... whatever that may look like for you, know that you’re not walking it alone! We love you, Mama!

-Northern Colorado Moms Blog

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She is Listening, She is Watching YOU


Because she is listening.
She is watching.
She is taking it all in.
And she will remember...
everything.
-Lisa Marie

Be kind in the way you speak to yourself, in the way you speak about yourself.

Your self-image builds your child's self-image. Give her wings to fly, and not shackles to break free from.

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Peaceful Parenting Community




When you yell at your daughter "out of love"


"Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love, you teach her to confuse anger with kindness, which seems like a good idea until she grows up to trust men who hurt her 'cause they look so much like you." -Rupi Kaur, 'To Fathers With Daughters' - https://amzn.to/2zLBNpj

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I will not be working to get my body back

Photo by Alli Upham

No, no, you have it wrong, I will not be working to get my body back.
She was never lost.
She was here, giving every moment and detail to this sweet baby.
She was pushed and exhausted, stretched and stripped to make space for a new life.
Please stand back and aside.
For her sacrifice she will not be scrutinized.
She will be loved, and thanked and bowed down to.
She will be allowed her time to heal and be settled into.
This body’s work will not be forgotten, hidden or erased.
And if you feel it should, you understand nothing about the gift she has given.
No, no. Body don’t listen.
Because I see you.
I thank you deeply.
You did so good.

By Mia Car, Snuggle Me Organic

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Broken Birth Practices - Hospital Tour: Imma Head Out...


Earth's Natural Touch: Birth Care & Beyond in Bridgeport, Connecticut, put together this meme collection of broken birth practices and the responses from the mother who owns her birth. It's your body, your baby, your birth. You have the right, Momma, to know everything about your birth team, and birth location, and be picky in your selection process.











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Research EVERYTHING when you are expecting.


The Vulva - A Professional Guide for Girls


Shannon O'Boyle writes:

Here it is. The V word. The G word.

Moms, Teach your girls that they are normal before some adolescent boy who learned from men who learned from porn + few real experiences tell her she is not.

I’m talking to YOU, Midwestern Mom.

I’m talking to YOU, Southern Bell.

I grew up here. Catholic. I know what we know, and it is rarely actual real and valuable information about OUR bodies that are OURS.

Yeah. Your parts are sacred. So, no one taught you to look at them. Look! YOU are your best advocate for health. Teach your partner what normal is. Teach your girls what normal is. LEARN WHAT NORMAL IS WHICH IS PROBABLY ALMOST ANYTHING THAT ISN’T PAINFUL. 

Guys, read this info so you’re not an idiot about it. Jokes on you if you learned about female body parts from porn and magazines... that sh*t is edited for one standard look.

Girls getting genital plastic surgery... Women telling me they need it after one baby... I’m done. You are whole and beautiful, and fortunately (!) of your own beautifully designed, unique mold. Know it.


This Online Vulva Guide Can Help Your Daughter Love Her Genitals: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/online-vulva-guide_uk_5aa79358e4b009b705d5c2bd
By Rachel Moss | Read more from Moss at: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/author/rachel-moss/


In a world where girls as young as nine are seeking surgery to alter the appearance of their genitals, parents may be at a loss as to how to reassure their daughters their vulvas are “normal.”

But now, doctors have created an online booklet you can direct young women to so they learn “vulvas come in a variety of shapes and sizes” and every woman’s “normal” is different.

The booklet, created in partnership with with Brook, a young people’s sexual health and wellbeing charity, features a series of illustrations that detail the changes that happen to a woman’s body during puberty and beyond.

Commenting on the launch, Laura West, participation and volunteering manager at Brook, said: “All young people deserve education, support and advice about anatomy, but unfortunately there is a lack of accurate and sensitive information available as part of the school curriculum and on the internet. This new booklet will help to address this need and will inform doctors, girls, young women and their families, as to what is normal and where to seek further help and support if required.”

The resource was commissioned by The British Association of Paediatric and Adolescent Gynaecology (BritsPAG), a specialist society of the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.


According to NHS figures, in 2015-16 more than 200 girls under 18 had labiaplasty and more than 150 of the girls were under 15. These numbers do not include girls and young women having the procedure privately. BritsPAG say these operations do not have a medical justification.

Female genital cosmetic surgery refers to surgical cosmetic procedures that change the structure and appearance of the healthy external genitalia of women. It includes the most common procedure, labiaplasty, which is sometimes referred to as “designer vagina” surgery and involves the lips by the vaginal opening being shortened or reshaped.

As well as including illustrations of vulvas, the booklet, titled ‘So what is a vulva anyway?’ includes information to clear up the names of body parts for young women who may be confused.

“People call vulva lots of different names: fanny, minge, foof, flower,” it says. “Some people say vagina when they are actually talking about their vulva which is fine, but it’s a really good idea to know the proper names to avoid confusion.”

Dr Naomi Crouch, consultant gynaecologist and chair of BritSPAG, told HuffPost UK as well as being useful for teens directly, the new booklet can help parents when talking to young people about normal vulva appearance.

“It provides accurate and sensitive information about the vulva, how it is unique and it is entirely normal and healthy to change throughout life,” she said.

“Parents can play an important role in ensuring young people have access to accurate information and offer reassurance and emotional support to those who may feel concerned or distressed about how they look or feel.”

The team behind the booklet conducted discussion groups with young women in order to gauge their current level of understanding and whether they felt as though this resource would be useful.

These young women felt there is a lack of understanding about the vulva and that they are not taught enough in school. They said they are likely to conduct their own research online.


The booklet provides girls with a reliable resource to counteract the fact they are presented with so many images of vulvas that are digitally manipulated.

“It’s difficult to know what a ‘normal vulva’ is. You don’t really get to see other peoples so it’s difficult to appreciate that labia come in different shapes and sizes,” the booklet says.

“If you have seen any porn you might have seen vulvas looking a particular way (often with no hair and with very tiny labia - so you can’t see them). Lots of images are photoshopped to look like this - as are boobs, legs and various other body parts. This creates a false image of what is considered normal or desirable.”

The resource also aims to tell young women - and their parents - that if a young person does have concerns about their body, a positive thing to do is to reach out and speak to a healthcare professional, such as a GP.

The booklet will be available on the BritsPAG website as a download for clinicians, including GPs, practice nurses and sexual health staff to be able to give out when meeting young people with genital cosmetic concerns and signpost them to further resources that promote healthy body image.

Louise Williams, clinical nurse specialist at University College Hospital and co-lead of the project, said: “We see many patients in our pediatric and adolescent gynecology clinic who have a poor understanding of the function of parts of the anatomy and also of normal genital variation."

“We hope [this booklet] will reassure young people that vulvas come in a variety of shapes and sizes, and if they need advice and support, they can know where to go”

Dr Naomi Crouch, consultant gynaecologist and spokesperson for the RCOG and chair of BritSpag, added: “There is absolutely no scientific evidence to support the practice of labiaplasty and the risk of harm is significant, particularly for teenagers who are still in stages of development both physically and psychologically.

“We hope this resource will provide information for girls and young women that their vulva is unique and will change throughout their life, and that this is entirely normal and healthy.”





The British Society for Paediatric and Adolescent Gynaecology

A body-positive, gentle parenting community






Grandmother Nurses Her Grandbaby


Vietnamese grandmother nurses her grandchild after relactating, common in many parts of the world today, and throughout human history.

Photo via @melissajeanbabies

Related Reading: 

Induced Lactation: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/04/induced-lactation.html

Breastfeeding my adopted child: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/08/special-gift-breastfeeding-adopted.html

My adoptive breastfeeding journey: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/10/my-adoptive-breastfeeding-journey.html

The Protocols for Induced Lactation A Guide for Maximizing Breastmilk Production: https://www.asklenore.info/breastfeeding/induced_lactation/protocols4print.shtml

The Breastfeeding Community (group)

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Doctor Bans Doulas From Attending Births


As publicly composed by Exposing the Silence

ICAN of Huntsville shared the post circulating the web of the obstetrician's office who posted a sign stating that the practice would not work with pregnant clients who hire a doula (pictured above). In their post, ICAN accurately states how disheartening it is to see care providers assume they have the authority to make a decision like that which drastically affects their clients AND is in blatant disregard to all of the evidence confirming that doulas improve birthing outcomes in general. 

Of course, there is always that one person who has to stir the pot... 

"I don't see anything wrong with this and commend the doctor's office for stating clear as day! They are people too who have their own opinions and the way they want to practice. If you don't like it, then don't go to them! It's really that easy!" 

FIRST: "...who have their own opinions and the way THEY WANT TO PRACTICE..."

Whoa. Did you hear that? This person believes that our care providers have the RIGHT and POWER and AUTHORITY to decide HOW they WANT to practice [upon your body]! Yikes. 

SECOND: "If you don't like it, then don't go to them! It's really that easy!" 

Yikes again. Obviously, this individual is extremely unaware of how insurance coverage in healthcare works, the various geographic challenges pregnant people face, as well as the PRIVILEGE to just go somewhere else...that easily! Good grief. 

As expected, this comment has a massive thread of subsequent comments in response to include...

"Patients don't run the facility, the facility runs the practice. So pick a different facility." 

"It seems most are bashing doctors for doing what they are trained to do. I mean, referring to breaking someone's water as rape is infuriating to me. I know what both are and they are not the same. How dare someone say they are." 

ICAN chimes in with: "breaking someone's water without consent could be considered rape because you are inserting your hand into a person's vagina without consent." 

To which this response follows: "ICAN uh, no. Not even close. That is not rape by any legal definition." (YIKES again!) And: "I am making the argument that doing a cervical check is an established standard of care. It's not rape. And it's also not rape if a nurse or a midwife does it in the context of providing accepted medical care." 

Full stop. Did. You. Read. That. ?? "...AN ESTABLISHED STANDARD OF CARE..." "....IT'S NOT RAPE IF A NURSE OR MIDWIFE DOES IT..." 

It's not just the obstetric model of care we are up against when it comes to basic rights for all pregnant people, folks... The belief that MDs and other medical staff have the authority over our bodies runs deep in our culture. We have generations of conditioning to unlearn. 

In related NOT shocking news, the person who made that last comment is none other than an obstetrician.

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Dearest Mama, Thank You


Dearest Mama,

Thank you for giving me your milk, it was my favourite thing.

I loved to be near you, I felt calm and safe and happy.

I loved when you stroked my face and we looked at each other for hours.

I’m sorry sometimes I was a bit pinchy, or would fidget, I didn’t mean to hurt you, it’s just that your milk was so magical it made me sleepy.

The dreams I had that started with your milk were the sweetest.

Thank you for stopping your world to feed me, I’m so little that I won’t really remember, but I hope that you do, for always. x


Artwork and Poem By Taynee Tinsley
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When a baby stops to smile...

When a baby stops nursing to smile at you, that is their way of saying, "Thanks for the yummy milk! I love you, Mom." Enjoy those special moments, because they won't last forever.


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Breastfeeding Badges: Celebrating Milky Milestones


For a number of years breastfeeding moms arriving at peaceful parenting with lactation questions, seeking community, and finding support, have asked for breastfeeding badges to celebrate milestones along the way. This World Breastfeeding Week we are happy to share our badges with the hope that they empower, encourage, and warm many mommas' hearts along the way.

No matter how long you've nursed your baby, you are giving your little one a beautiful start in life - and one that will impact them forevermore.

The design for our breastfeeding badges includes colorful spirals with a glistening of milky white. Danelle Frisbie explains:
The breastfeeding badge spirals represent many things: the circular nature of life and love between a mother and her baby; generations of breastfeeding women before us and those to come; the ebb and flow and flexibility required as both a parent and as a nursing mom; the constant sureness that while we may not see things change moment to moment, they always are; the yin/yang type of opposites that exist in us all - sometimes bubbling forth through our breastfeeding years (anyone who has nursed a 2 or 3 year old will have days they want to quit, or feel touched out, but deeply long at the same time to keep going for the wellbeing of their child - knowing that a natural end in weaning will too quickly arrive, and this will all be gone in the blink of an eye). Spirals have also been used far into antiquity, and to the present day, to represent female energy, power, reproduction, and life-giving -- all of which flow forth in a mother's milk. 

We invite you to take and use breastfeeding badges along your own journey, and if you feel like sharing any of your experiences or photos with us, drop a note to DrMomma.org@gmail.com or join the Breastfeeding Group on Facebook.

Wishing you all the milky love this year and beyond!

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Black Breastfeeding Week: Aug 25-31
Background image twist on the International Breastfeeding Symbol by Pryia M. Laday.
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