Be a Lady

“Be a Lady,” they said...

Remove your body hair. Shave your legs. Shave your armpits. Shave your bikini line. Wax your face. Wax your arms. Wax your eyebrows. Get rid of your mustache. Bleach this. Bleach that. Lighten your skin. Tan your skin. Eradicate your scars. Cover your stretch marks. Tighten your abs. Plump your lips. Botox your wrinkles. Lift your face. Tuck your tummy. Thin your thighs. Tone your calves. Perk up your boobs. Look natural. Be yourself. Be genuine. Be confident. You’re trying too hard. You look overdone. Men don’t like girls who try too hard.

“Be a Lady,” they said...

Wear makeup. Prime your face. Conceal your blemishes. Contour your nose. Highlight your cheekbones. Line your lids. Fill in your brows. Lengthen your lashes. Color your lips. Powder, blush, bronze, highlight. Your hair is too short. Your hair is too long. Your ends are split. Highlight your hair. Your roots are showing. Dye your hair. Not blue, that looks unnatural. You’re going grey. You look so old. Look young. Look youthful. Look ageless. Don’t get old. Women don’t get old. Old is ugly. Men don’t like ugly.

“Be a Lady,” they said...

Save yourself. Be pure. Be virginal. Don’t talk about sex. Don’t flirt. Don’t be a skank. Don’t be a whore. Don’t sleep around. Don’t lose your dignity. Don’t have sex with too many men. Don’t give yourself away. Men don’t like sluts. Don’t be a prude. Don’t be so uptight. Have a little fun. Smile more. Pleasure men. Be experienced. Be sexual. Be innocent. Be dirty. Be virginal. Be sexy. Be the cool girl. Don’t be like the other girls.

“Be a Lady,” they said...

Don’t talk too loud. Don’t talk too much. Don’t take up space. Don’t sit like that. Don’t stand like that. Don’t be intimidating. Why are you so miserable? Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be so bossy. Don’t be assertive. Don’t overact. Don’t be so emotional. Don’t cry. Don’t yell. Don’t swear. Be passive. Be obedient. Endure the pain. Be pleasing. Don’t complain. Let him down easy. Boost his ego. Make him fall for you. Men want what they can’t have. Don’t give yourself away. Make him work for it. Men love the chase. Fold his clothes. Cook his dinner. Keep him happy. That’s a woman’s job. You’ll make a good wife someday. Take his last name. You hyphenated your name? Crazy feminist. Give him children. You don’t want children? You will someday. You’ll change your mind.

“Be a Lady,” they said...

Don’t get raped. Protect yourself. Don’t drink too much. Don’t walk alone. Don’t go out too late. Don’t dress like that. Don’t show too much. Don’t get drunk. Don’t leave your drink. Have a buddy. Walk where it is well lit. Stay in the safe neighborhoods. Tell someone where you’re going. Bring pepper spray. Buy a rape whistle. Hold your keys like a weapon. Take a self-defense course. Check your trunk. Lock your doors. Don’t go out alone. Don’t make eye contact. Don’t bat your eyelashes. Don’t look easy. Don’t attract attention. Don’t work late. Don’t crack dirty jokes. Don’t smile at strangers. Don’t go out at night. Don’t trust anyone. Don’t say yes. Don’t say no.

Just “Be a Lady,” they said.

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Positive Birth Affirmations

By Neve Spicer © 2018

Positive Birth Affirmations 

Regularly practicing positive birth affirmations during pregnancy can have a powerful effect on your mind and body when it comes to birthing your baby. They can help you to achieve the calm and controlled birth that you want.

There is nothing 'airy-fairy' about positive affirmations. Just ask sport psychologists. They are well aware that an athlete's frame of mind directly affects how their body functions. Confidence and positive belief improve physical performance. This principle holds even truer as a woman progresses through labor; her calm and confident mindset help her uterus (aka Wonder Muscle) to function optimally. This, in turn, creates the best chance of a quick and easy delivery. 

But here's the thing:

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) research has shown that around 80% of our 'self-talk' (ie, our internal dialogue) is negative. Our beliefs are imprinted on us from an early age but, sadly, these are often negative. It’s very common for women to have fears and negative assumptions surrounding birth. Perhaps these stem from inaccurate stereotypes on TV, or women sharing birthing 'war stories'. Either way, they are neither necessary nor helpful.

The good news is that we can literally reprogram our brains. It's actually pretty simple. Afterall, our brain can only hold on to a few pieces of information at a time. By repeating positive affirmations, they soon 'squeeze out' the negative thoughts, leaving your subconscious pleasantly full of positive beliefs about birth. Emotionally, you'll notice a sense of confidence and calm as you approach your baby's beautiful birth.

I'm passionate about positive birth affirmations. They played a powerful role as I birthed both of my children. (Pictured is the moment my second child, Dara, was born into water at home. It was a beautiful experience.) That's why I chose to bring together the most gorgeous and effective affirmations that I could find. Here they are, below, in one place accompanied by the stunning birth art of Amanda Greavette.

How to get the most out of these affirmations:

• Read through the list of affirmations.
• Choose the statements you like the most.
• Cut them out and put them somewhere obvious (eg, walls, mirrors, or in your handbag)
• When you see them, say them!

Neve is a natural birthing advocate and mother-of-two. She blogs at

Positive Birthing Affirmations (Printable Poster)

Positive Birthing Affirmations (Printable Poster)

 • Peace Breathe Birth
• My Body is NOT a Lemon
• Birthing Goddess
• Women of Earth: Take Back Birth!

Iceland to Ban Infant Circumcision, Introduces 6-year Jail Term for Offenders

As reported by the Truth Command

While many Americans may be circumcised, largely as a result of the prevalent Judeo-Christian tradition in the country, that isn’t the case everywhere else. And if a new law passes in Iceland, circumcisions in the country will become not just rare, but illegal.

A new proposed legislative amendment would ban the practice of childhood circumcision, making circumcision of a child illegal, and punishable by up to six years of prison time. The bill, which is supported by members from at least five different political parties (including, among others, the Pirate Party, the Left Green, and the Progressive Party), calls for amendments to the current criminal code in the country.

In fact, the proposed legislation clearly states “[Anyone found] removing sexual organs [from any child or woman], in whole or in part, shall be jailed for six years.” And unlike many health and public safety laws in the United States, there isn’t an exemption on religious grounds, as the draft makes clear. As the draft notes “While it is certainly the rights of the parents to give their children guidance when it comes to religion, such a right can never exceed the rights of the child.”

This is part of a growing trend in Europe, as Danish doctors have recently also spoken out against childhood circumcision. As the bill notes, “Circumcision involves permanent interventions into a child’s body that can cause severe pain, also such an operation involves a risk of infections and other problems.” As a result, the bill states that while the child may eventually decide they want to be circumcised, they cannot do so until the age of consent, “to understand what is involved in such action.” In Iceland, the age of consent is 15.

While the rate of circumcision in Iceland is currently rather low, it is not unheard of, and there is still some debate surrounding the issue—and not just in Iceland. In addition to Danish doctors who have previously spoken out against circumcision, there is also a movement underway in Norway, as the Progress Party (FrP)—the country’s third-largest party, and more commonly known for their anti-immigration policies—chose to support a bill outlawing childhood circumcision before age 16.

While it remains to be seen if the bill in Iceland can pass, there’s certainly some momentum behind it.

Photo credit: Exploring Iceland

Related Reading:

Should I Circumcise? The Pros and Cons of Infant Circumcision

Functions of the Foreskin, Purposes of the Prepuce:

Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis

Foreskin and its 16+ Functions (not 'just skin')

Foreskin Facts Postcards (oversized) available at Etsy

Born Perfect Cloth Diaper

We've teamed up with Stink Bombs Cloth Diapers to create the perfect fluff for your little one! The Saving Our Sons Born Perfect cloth diaper is up for pre-sale at a discounted rate of $12.99 February 15 - March 1.

Each colorful, fully adjustable with snaps, pocket diaper comes with one microfiber insert. Shipping is $3 per order (for as many diapers as you'd like). SOS Born Perfect diapers will ship at the conclusion of Genital Integrity Awareness Week (approximately 4 weeks post-presale).

Be sure to include your mailing address when checking out via PayPal, or email this information to

If you prefer that PayPal not take 4%, you can send your pre-order as a "Friend or Family" donation to on or mail by check or money order to the address below. Include a note or email us with your mailing address.

Add $12.99 per diaper + $3 shipping per order going to the same address when figuring your check-out total. If you are donating beyond the cost of your diaper(s), please include a note. We'd love to hear from you, and will respond via email.

Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

After pre-sales have concluded, SOS Born Perfect diapers retail at $14.99 and will be available through Etsy at Stink Bombs Cloth Diapers or Saving Our Sons, where Stink Bombs will donate a portion of each sale back to the baby-saving work of Saving Our Sons.

We look forward to seeing your little cutie in their new BORN PERFECT fluff!

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Cloth diapering families are welcome to join the intact-friendly Cloth Diapering Group on Facebook.

The Pros and Cons of Traveling with a Baby

Some people want nothing more than to travel the world in search of new experiences. When you are deciding if you want to become a parent, you have to decide if your baby is going to inhibit your travels. Is it possible to travel where you want to with a baby in tow or do you need to get a babysitter to go on vacation?

This is not a decision to take lightly. Things like the expense of traveling with a baby and your spouse, extra equipment and food that you might need, and having the responsibility and restriction of having a baby with you are all things to consider. This article will break down what you need to consider before deciding if you want to bring a baby on your next adventure.

Traveling with Your Baby and Spouse

New families are often excited, ready to help their baby explore the world. Family travel is something to consider—it is a great way to make memories. Often, family travel depends on how prepared you are. The challenges you face are different when traveling with your spouse and baby, but being prepared makes it an incredible, memorable experience for everyone. Below, you’ll find the pros and cons of traveling with your little one.

Advantages of Traveling with a Baby

Traveling with a baby isn’t all about stress—it can actually be a great experience. Here are some advantages:

Spending quality time with your little one Your baby will be exposed to new people, places, and experiences more than they would staying at home Your child will develop expanded perspectives on the systems that exist in the world Parents get to see their child’s joy as they experience the world and look at it in a new perspective Disadvantages of Traveling with a Baby Nightlife will have to be saved for another visit, as most parents cannot find or bring along a babysitter with them Frequent travel can disrupt childhood friendships and a stable living environment You have to worry about more than just yourself and your partner because children are unpredictable and stressful or chaotic scenarios can ensue

Should You Travel with a Baby?

It’s important to weigh the advantages and disadvantage before you decide to bring your baby along on vacation. Yes, you are making memories, but your baby may not always remember them. You must also consider traveling expenses and unexpected scenarios, the limitations that you will face in what you can do, and if your baby will benefit from varied, new experiences and a broader perspective or a stable social and living environment. If you do decide to travel with your significant other and your baby, be sure that you are prepared to take on the challenge!

About the Author
Ann Johnson is employed as a professional writer from a reputable essay writing service. She specializes in writing in the hospitality and tourism category, working with an essay writing service. Ann’s knowledge in the area comes from her background in tourism studies, with a focus on the dynamics of tours and travel.

How to Babyproof Your Home

The wriggling, squealing baby in your arms is going to grow up fast. Pretty soon your baby will be tearing around the house and trying to get their hands on anything they can grab. Protect your little one by babyproofing your house as soon as possible.

If you’re a first-time parent, you might be wondering if it’s worth the effort. Can’t you just keep an eye on the baby to make sure she doesn’t get into trouble? The reality is that babies and toddlers can be so rambunctious that it would be hard to watch them every minute even if you had eyes on the back of your head.

Accidents happen. You can’t prevent everything that might happen but you can do a lot to lower your child’s risk.

Don’t worry. Babyproofing a home is easier than it seems. It just requires common sense and attention to details. We’ve compiled a list of expert tips and tricks to help you out.

Get to Know Your Water Heater

Scalding water is the last thing that you want to be splashed on your baby’s skin. A curious toddler has no concept of how to be safe around faucets. Once the child has turned on the hot water, they can easily burn themselves.

To keep your family safe, set your water heater to 120 degrees or less.

Unless you want to be stuck trying to bathe your child with freezing water, you should also make sure that your water heater isn’t faulty. At, they note that their Mornington Peninsula, Australia, team arrives “with all the parts and supplies right there with us on every call to ensure we can get started straight away fixing your plumbing issues on the spot. This saves you time from waiting around and it also saves you money...”

Call the right plumber and fixing your water heater will be a simple, painless task.

Secure Your Furniture

A child can easily pull an unsecured bookcase or dresser down on top of themselves. You can avoid this by securing problem pieces of furniture to the wall. A rowdy toddler might try to climb on shelves or yank on tall lamps.

According to a website run by the American Academy of Pediatrics, the number of children harmed by falling TVs every year is increasing. Don’t forget to secure your nursery as well. Diaper changing tables can be treacherous.

Keep Your Bathrooms Locked

We’ve already seen how easily babies can injure themselves by playing with faucets. It turns out that there are other dangers lurking in the bathroom. Slippery floors, a bathtub large enough to drown in. Small children also start playing with the toilet sometimes, exposing themselves to dangerous chemicals and bacteria.

Clear your bathroom counters of anything that might harm your baby. Grooming items like you razor need to be kept far away from curious baby fingers. Your cleaning supplies should be kept out of reach as well.

Cover Your Sockets 

Electric socket covers are cheap and easy to find. They’re an integral part of babyproofing a home. Make sure that the covers fit snugly, you don’t want a dedicated child pulling them out.

Use a Baby Gate

Once your baby starts moving around independently, you’re going to want to buy a baby gate. Place them at the top of stairwells and you’ll mitigate the risk of your baby falling down the steps.

You can also use the gate to keep your little one out of certain rooms. For instance, you might want to keep her out of the kitchen while you’re cooking.

Eliminate Tripping Hazards

A toddler’s gait is often unsteady; expect a few trips and falls as your little one learns to walk. That doesn’t mean, however, you shouldn’t try to reduce the risk. Try to clear your floors of anything that might get tangled up under your baby’s feet. Use furniture covers to blunt sharp edges on things like your couch and coffee table.

Remove Potential Toxins

Make sure that all cleaning supplies and medications are securely put away. Something as simple as leaving your laundry detergent on the counter could have devastating consequences if your baby grabs hold of it.

Remember Your Windows

You should prevent your upper story windows from opening too wide. Be wary also of the long cord on your blinds. Kids loving wrapping things around their neck.

Be Present

Don’t allow your child to roam freely around your home until it’s safe for them to do so. A child can get into trouble within seconds if left to themselves, even if the house has been thoroughly babyproofed. Be present in the moment and keep a close eye on your little one.

Healthy Foods for Kids


Is your kid fussy while made to eat food? Does your kid only like junk food and avoids all healthy food? Well, that's because no matter how nutritious some foods like broccoli and spinach are, kids don't like the taste of those green vegetables. What your kid wants is some tasty and scrumptious food, while you want a nutrient and vitamin-rich food intake for your kid. Look no further, as we have combined the list of healthy and tasty meals, which would get your kid's taste buds kicking and help him in his body growth and development.


Tofu is manufactured after being pressed into solid white blocks from condensed soy milk, and the manufacturing process is quite similar to that of cheese. Safe for human consumption, in fact very kid-friendly, tofu contains some rich vitamins and minerals. It is very high in protein intake. It also includes all essential amino acids, carbohydrates, calcium, fats, magnesium, iron, zinc, selenium, and fiber. Tofu is not generally used to serve as a whole dish, but it enhances the creamy flavor of desserts. Tofu helps in bone growth and strengthening, which is why we consider an ideal eatable for kids.


Scientifically proven to have more calcium than a glass of milk, yogurt is very healthy and beneficial for young kids, especially those who are planning to keep their stomachs clean. Yogurt contains probiotics, which is a bacteria that helps keep bellies healthy and clean. It also contains protein, making it ideal for kid growth. Yogurt is a much better option compared to low-quality sugary products, which are not so good in their nutrient intake. Whether you select just to use some honey, cornflakes or biscuits, there is no denying that yogurt is a healthy treat for all, especially kids, and can suppress stomach pain.


Fish has always been known to be high in nutrition intake. So what makes Salmon even unique? Well apparently, it makes the first list of lowest mercury intake – an element which is hazardous for human consumption. This rich-in-protein fish also contains OMEGA-3 fatty acids, which is another plus for your kid’s development. Salmon has natural flavor, which means that it can be grilled or cooked with little to less seasoning using best bbq utensils and tools easily. This food is a definite plus for kids and adults alike.


Mango is that one fruit that is loved by kids and adults equally alike! Whether your kids choose to eat it as it is or make a milkshake or juice, mango will always be the king of fruits. Not only a scrumptious dessert, but mango is also rich in the supply of vitamin C, which is plenty to keep your kids’ immune system active and running, while also providing an abundant intake of fiber too. Contrary to popular belief, this sweetened fruit is also suitable for both teeth and gums. The good thing about this fruit is that this is something that is both nutritious and tasty to eat too, compared to spinach and broccoli, which are usually avoided by kids.

Grilled food

You might consider us absurd for just saying so, but the cooked food is actually pretty healthy. Grilled food prepared using quality grills is a better option compared to deep frying and pan frying, and when combined with some other natural elements, it becomes even better to eat. All in all, it all entirely depends on the food preparation. If you choose to season your food with either lemon juice or garlic, your kids would love the distinct savory flavor, and it will help reduce the intake of excessive sodium due to a non-salty seasoning. Bring out the barbecues, parents!


Also known as the creamy greenish fruit, the avocado is consumed a lot in the western world, and for all the right reason. Most parents opt to use it as a spread on toast in place of butter or mayonnaise. Also, mashing it after peeling and then devouring it is also a good choice. Avocado contains fats but the healthy ones, i.e., mono-unsaturated ones. It can also be combined with lemon juice etc. to get the best taste. Also, avocado shakes are not a bad idea as well, and once your kids get the hang of its delightful flavor, they would be asking for more!


We really hope that this list has helped you discover the healthy plus tasty side of food for your children. Most of these foods are pretty high in protein, vitamins, calcium and fiber intake, and moreover, have almost no side effects. Also, these food look tasty and appetizing, which is a plus point especially if you have children who are very selective in food choices. But don't forget the essentials! Milk, water, and grains are some of the must-haves for your kids, and no compromise should be made in them.

Massaging benefits for pregnant women


Massaging has been utilized for quite a long time to enhance wellbeing, diminish pressure, and assuage muscle strain. This technique before pregnancy has frequently resulted in well-being. Current examination and research have demonstrated that this treatment can be an instrumental element in ladies' pre-birth mind and ought to be given careful thought. Massagers for women range from best neck massagers to best foot massagers. Though most massaging organizations show knead treatment for ladies who are pregnant, it is best to discover a back rub specialist who is ensured in the pre-birth rub. It is also best for expecting pregnant ladies to stay away from massaging and so if their doctors have prescribed against it or due to a specific medical ailment or sensitivity. Nonetheless, here are some of the significant benefits of massaging for these women:

Better Sleep

We know how massaging is exceptionally relieving and soothes our muscles. Besides this, massaging also helps make us feel sleepy. This is good news for all the pregnant women out there, as it is highly recommended by the doctor to get maximum rest during the months of pregnancy. Massaging is the best for pregnant women who have insomnia. The reason is that rubbing helps us relax our nerves, making us feel lighter and better, which is crucial for women who are expecting a baby pretty soon as they need to feel as lighthearted as possible.

Stress release

We all know that massage helps release tension and stress while making one feel better. However, few of us understand why. Massaging releases all stress hormones through Serotonin, which is a hormone that makes one feel better. It also helps in relieving all sorts of natural body ache and facilitates the release of endorphin, which is a stress-related hormone. That explains why people feel so relieved after a massage. Pregnant women need stress release the most since the counter would be harmful to both their health as well as their baby’s health.

Relief from nerve pain

Numerous ladies experience sciatic nerve ache and torment in later months of pregnancy. The weight of the female uterus spreads strain to the muscles of the legs, making them swell and put the burden on close-by nerves. Massage treatment tends to the aggravated nerves by discharging the pressure on adjacent tissues. Numerous ladies have encountered a considerable decrease in sciatic nerve torment amid pregnancy through this technique.

Fewer difficulties during childbirth

Research done in a previous couple of years have demonstrated that hormone levels related to unwinding and stress are radically adjusted when massaging is acquainted with ladies' pre-birth regimen. This prompts mind-set control and enhanced cardiovascular health. In research, where ladies who got massages done for just five weeks, hormones, for example, norepinephrine and cortisol (hormones related with pressure) were decreased, and dopamine and serotonin levels were expanded (low levels of these hormones are associated with tension). These adjustments in hormone levels additionally prompted fewer complexities amid birth and fewer cases of infant difficulties, for example, low birth weight. The confirmation firmly proposes there are maternal and infant medical advantages when the essential message is consolidated into the standard pre-birth regimen.

Increase in the circulation of blood in the body

In pregnant women, swelling and body ache usually occurs due to water weight, as well as the extra weight of the baby. The massaging helps in this water retention as well as relieving muscle stress that is caused by circulating the blood flow to all the swelled body parts which are devoid of adequate amounts of blood. Not only that, but headaches, leg cramps, backaches and edema near the joint area can also be drastically controlled by special massaging for pregnant women, as it helps reduce all that swelling that is developed during pregnancy.

Discharge of toxic waste

Massaging is known to improve our digestive system by helping to digest all kinds of tasty grilled food meal and other things you eat recently, thus allowing dangerous materials and waste to discharge through our body. This is done through the lymphatic fluid, which boosts up that sluggish metabolism and sweeps away all those toxic fluids through our digestive system. Pregnant women have to bear the weight of their child, plus need to get rid of digested material, especially those wastes which are toxic for her and her child. Massaging helps a pregnant woman achieve that goal effectively by increasing the level of oxygen intake and assist in the excretion process.


Massaging treatment before pregnancy is a substantial correlative decision plus a sound method to diminish pressure and bring some general wellbeing. This procedure mitigates a significant number of distresses experienced amid pregnancy, for example, spinal pains, hardened neck, leg spasms, migraines and edema or swelling. Pregnant women must use best neck massagers, best foot massagers, and belly ones. Furthermore, massaging for pregnant ladies decreases weight on weight-bearing joints, empowers blood and lymph flow, unwinds apprehensive strain, which helps in better rest, and can help alleviate misery or uneasiness caused by hormonal changes.

Sleeping Soccer Mom: My Hero

Glennon Doyle writes on her Facebook page:

I give you: MY NEW HERO.

This Soccer Mom, at my kid’s last game. Whilst the other parents stood loudly and earnestly and concernedly on the sidelines: this mother laid her body down on the ground, her head on her purse, and her blanket over her face - and napped. Her entire existence said: I am showing up for my kid. But I’m not gonna pretend I’m not exhausted about it. Please understand that periodically - when the sideline yelled and woke her from her warrior sleep - she would raise that little thumb of hers and say: yay. And then she’d go back to sleep.

I love her. 

She is a cultural icon for our time.


May we know them.

May we raise them.

May we be them.

I would like to formally nominate this hero as the president elect of our Women Who Have Run Out of Effs to Give Club. I will be the Secretary in Charge of Meetings. There will be no meetings. I salute you.


Mothering Littles? You're welcome at:

Beyond Birth: Mothering Babies & Children (more mainstream)

Peaceful Parenting Group (more holistic)

Intact Billboard During FGM Trial in Michigan

Help us bring this billboard to Detroit!

Over the past year we have received many requests to host a quality, pro-intact billboard in an ideal location in Detroit during the next year while the FGM trial takes place. While we do not typically feel that the exorbitant costs of billboards in less-traveled areas are worth the payout (especially when traveling billboards cost a mere fraction of the amount and are seen by just as many in large metropolitan areas; or maternity expos at large venues reach thousands of expecting mothers for pennies-to-the-dollar of a billboard), this is one exception.

The FGM case is a landmark one that is sure to receive national media attention, and is an ideal time to draw the connection between all forms of genital cutting. In addition, the trials take place in a Michigan location that is deep in the heart of a cutting culture (see Jonathon Conte's map here). For these reasons, we set out to accept template designs, and a number of ideas and examples were presented. Through various focus groups and public forums, a billboard (its wording, colors, domain, and image) was selected that reflects genital autonomy for all, and stirs people to think about this subject from another perspective in the midst of the FGM trial. Please feel free to message the Saving Our Sons Facebook page with questions or concerns you have.

• The neutral colors of baby's fingers wrapped around an adult's finger represents babies of all sexes, and reinforces the message that all babies deserve protection.

• The tag line 'Say NO to Infant Circumcision' was chosen because it will not be lost on viewers. While we prefer to use the term 'forced genital cutting' or 'genital mutilation' over its euphemism, most in Michigan (and the U.S. at large) agree that female genital cutting/genital mutilation is wrong, and the phrase does not stir the same emotional response in people. The concern is that they would see it in relation to the trial taking place and think, "Yes, cutting girls is wrong..." not making the bridge in thinking to this being about boys and intersex babies too. Because this is a billboard (not a personally held sign or face-to-face interaction), it needs to quickly move people to think and be curious enough to check things out themselves. A professional billboard is needed that will result in the most awareness raised in a positive manner, the most parents empowered with information they've not previously been privy to, and, ultimately, the most babies saved.

• The color of text was chosen because it has been shown in graphics studies to be most quickly read and retained by the human brain, and because it reflects the culturally-stereotypic color for boys.

• The domain brings the ubiquitous term intact front and center, and is short and sweet. The website can be formatted to have material on the trial, and its relation to male genital cutting at the forefront while the billboard is in place.

We are not expecting to raise enough for a digital billboard, which costs significantly more, so we are currently opting for a less expensive print billboard, in a prime location, heading into Detroit, as close as funding will take us to the courthouse. This will likely be $8,000 for 1 year. We have been in contact with several billboard hosting businesses for specific quotes and location options, and will update below with progress to goal and specifics as this is determined.

Should we not receive enough funding for a billboard, those who donate will have the option of receiving their donation back as a refund, or have this go toward the SOS Odyssey Traveling Billboards and Rallies that will take place during the trial in Detroit. The SOS Odyssey costs approximately $1,000 per 4-5 cities covered for 3-4 event coordinators heading things up, and reaches between 20-80K commuters per day, depending on location.

Thank you for your generous donation to erect this intact billboard before the trial begins!

Individuals and Businesses Supporting the Intact Billboard in Detroit

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Nuchal Cords are Necklaces, Not Nooses

Originally shared by the BadAssMotherBirther

Stop! Nuchal Cords are Necklaces, Not Nooses

Ever been told your baby was in danger because of a nuchal cord (also referred to as umbilical cord around the neck)? Nuchal cords have become the perfect excuse. We fear nuchal cords now more than ever. We are told they are dangerous and problematic because its easier to lay blame with the mother and baby rather than the care provider and/or hospital. This has resulted in fear about nuchal cords.

Common excuses mothers are given: 

• you need a cesarean because baby was found to have a nuchal cord during a routine ultrasound

• you couldn’t push your baby out vaginally because the nuchal cord was “hanging the baby up”

• your baby is in immediate danger from a nuchal cord

• you’re lucky your baby survived a nuchal cord

What’s the evidence for nuchal cords? Are nuchal cords common? Should you worry?

The umbilical cord is the life line that attaches the fetus to the placenta. It is typically made up of three blood vessels: two smaller arteries which carry blood to the placenta and a larger vein which returns blood to the fetus. It can grow to be 60 cm long, allowing the baby enough cord to safely move around without causing damage to the cord or the placenta.

Nuchal cords are very common; a third of all babies are born with their umbilical cord around their neck. The umbilical cord is coiled and covered in Wharton's jelly (Wharton's jelly is a gelatinous substance that is also found on your eyeballs). The jelly and coil protects the umbilical cord from stretch and compression. It is wonderfully built to be worn around the neck without problems.

Research has found that a nuchal cord is not associated with morbidity or mortality for the baby during pregnancy. Because one third of all babies are with nuchal cords, babies who die are often found with a nuchal cord. Care providers and hospitals are quick to blame fetal deaths on nuchal cords. Families deserve to know the truth about their baby, even if it means admitting to care provider negligence and/or saying, "We don’t know why your baby died..."

Only in very rare cases does a nuchal cord ever pose a risk to baby. There is absolutely no reason to undergo a cesarean if a nuchal cord is found during an ultrasound. Your baby is not ‘held up’ by the cord at any time. During labor and pushing phase, your baby, placenta, and cord are all moving down together. The uterus shrinks down during contractions, moving the baby downward, along with their attached placenta and cord. During a c-section for 'fetal distress' or 'failure to progress during labor' more than likely your baby will have a cord around their neck (because again, nuchal cords happen to one in three babies universally), and your care provider will have you believe that the nuchal cord is all the blame. FALSE! Your care provider and hospital are covering their buns by blaming you and baby for their lack of patience.

The only time a cord can become very stretched and tight around the neck is at the end of labor when baby’s head is being born. Being 'choked' by the cord is not a real thing. Your baby is NOT breathing oxygen through their neck/airway. Baby receives oxygen through the cord. When a nuchal cord is wrapped tightly, the cord decreases the amount of oxygen and blood flow it sends to baby, but does not completely stop working. These babies tend to have their cords cut before they are fully born and have a harder time transitioning, often winding up needing more care and/or resuscitation due to the care provider cutting the cord very prematurely. But again, this will be blamed on the tight nuchal cord. These babies would recover quickly if the cord was left intact. The worst thing you can do to a baby that has a tight nuchal cord is clamp and cut immediately. Removing and/or loosening a nuchal cord right as baby’s head emerges increases the chances of snapping the cord on accident, and causing excessive bleeding and harm to the baby. Wait until baby is born to unwrap the cord.

Research Everything... 

Further reading from an evidence-based perspective:

Neonatal Resuscitation -

Born in the U.S.A. - Dr. Marsden Wagner

Gentle Birth Choices - Barbara Harper, R.N.

The Thinking Woman's Guide to Better Birth - Henci Goer

Ina May's Guide to Childbirth - Ina May Gaskin

Childbirth Without Fear - Dr. Grantly Dick-Read

Pregnant women are invited to join either of these groups:

Pregnant Moms Due [this year] - (more mainstream)

Birthing - (more holistic)


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