We receive a large volume of mail from parents wondering what to tell their intact son as he grows up and becomes fully retractable on his own. Thanks to the efforts of several intact groups, parents today are getting the message: "DON'T RETRACT! Only Clean What is Seen! Wipe like a finger - outside only - warm water," as they care for their babies. But when these babies grow up, U.S. parents still do not have a good go-to source for information on how to discuss this topic with sons who may be the first intact men in several generations of their family. There is a lost shared wisdom about the intact body and how to gently and properly care for it.
In addition, there are no 'development' or 'sex ed' books in the U.S. that treat the intact male body as fully normal and not 'dirty' -- even those books that present intact male anatomy still have a paragraph or two somewhere within their covers that would lead intact boys to think they were more 'at risk' or more in need of 'cleaning' than their non-intact counterparts.
As such, we are working on a series of items geared specifically for boys growing up and the parents who want to know, "What do I say to him?!" If you are a parent of intact sons, or are a man (of any age) who has grown up intact, and you'd like to share any aspect of your story to benefit these young men today, or their parents, please drop us a note. We would love to hear your voice in response to some of the questions below as well. They will be compiled with others' answers, and used anonymously/first name or pseudonym only (depending on the respondent's preference) to lend insight into what all the other guys are doing...
Responses, questions or personal stories may be sent to: DrMomma.firstname.lastname@example.org
Questions for Intact Men:
1) How do you 'clean'? Be as specific as you like. It will help others who are new to all things intact.
2) If you remember bath time as a child, was there anything your parents said/did not say or do/not do that was specific to your intact state?
3) What would you tell parents who have an intact boy and would like to know what to do after he is retracting on his own?
4) What would you suggest that parents say/not say to their child as he reaches his pre-teen years/puberty?
5) Is there a foreskin-friendly/intact-friendly book for boys growing up that you know of?
6) Any other comments that would be useful to a generation of U.S. parents raising intact sons for the first time?
Thank you for sharing and helping out a new generation of young men!