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For information on how male circumcision impacts women (and, in turn, how male restoration benefits women) see:
* Article: How Circumcision Hurts Women by Jocel Them
* Article: Improve Marital Sex: Keep the Foreskins by Dr. Dean Edell
* Article: How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life by Dr. Christiane Northrup
* Study: Effects of Male Circumcision on Female Arousal and Orgasm
* Article: A Change in How Intercourse Works by the National Org of Circ Info Res Centers, CO
* Video: Penis 101 (How Circumcision Changes Intercourse for Men and Women) by Marilyn Milos
* Crystallized Pathology: The Clitoris, the Penis, and Women's Sexual Health by Danelle Frisbie (drop us a note for pdf excerpt version)
* Website: Sex As Nature Intended It [graphic site]
* News Brief: Male Circumcision Increases HIV rates among Women in Africa
* Review the Functions of the Foreskin by Dr. Fleiss & Dr. Hodges
* Book: Sex As Nature Intended It
* Facebook Page: Women Affected by Male Circumcision
* Site: Women Are Victims Too
"10 Ways Male Circumcision Hurts Women"
from the site, Sex As Nature Intended
1. Coronal Ridge Hook Scrapes the Vaginal Walls, causing Soreness
2. Circumcised Coronal Hook Pulls Out Vaginal Lubrication
3. Circumcised Penis's Elongated Thrusting Stroke Dries Out Vaginal Lubrication
4. Circumcised Penis's Non-Moveable Shaft Skin Creates Friction Irritation
5. Circumcised Penis "Feels Like You're Being Poked with a Broomstick"
6. Circumcised Penis Thrusts Hard, Rough and Tough, with Pounding, Bang-away Thrusting
7. Circumcised Penis's Elongated Strokes Create Infrequent Clitoris Contact that Hinders Her from Achieving Orgasm
8. Circumcised Penis's Out-of-Sync Thrusting Frustrates Her from Achieving Orgasm
9. Circumcised Sex Lessens Feelings of Love for One's Partner
10. Circumcised Sex Can Deteriorate the Relationship
My present uncircumcised man arrived after I'd been with several circumcised men.
ReplyDeleteI have had no relations with circumcised men since I met my current uncircumcised lover, but the difference between circumcised sex and uncircumcised sex is very obvious to me.
All my circumcised men seemed too anxious to reach their own orgasms and too caught up in getting their own pleasure. And they often left me unsatisfied, leaving me irritable, aggravated, and frustrated as hell.
Circumcised men are more rough and they tend to ‘pound away’ at me. With them, I seldom achieved orgasm.
During circumcised intercourse, it always felt like there were two sexual experiences going on—his and mine. It was never making love—it was only ‘F...ing.’ And most of the time our movements were out of sync. I was often left frustrated and feeling used
—leaving me feeling blue.
My uncircumcised man is very tender, passionate, and loving. Sex is more relaxed, mellow, and gentle with him than it was with circumcised men.
My uncircumcised man takes more time. I could make love with him for hours (and sometimes do). He is softer and gentler than the circumcised ones were. During circumcised intercourse, my noises and utterings sounded painful because it was close to painful at times! With my uncircd lover, they are more cooing, purring, and sounds of contentment, in response to the pleasure I'm feeling.
My uncircumcised partner is more sensitive, but I tend to think it is because he has a natural penis—hence, he is more delicate—he is more in touch with his penis—and his penis is more in touch with his heart.
When my uncircumcised man is inside me, he moves more smoothly, more gently, which is what I need.
Also, a natural penis feels more filling and seems to have an extra gliding sensation inside me. My current uncircd lover is usually in close physical contact with me, adding to the feeling of intimacy.
I usually have multiple orgasms with my uncircd partner that I didn't have with circumcised partners. My uncircd man gives me more frequent, powerful, all-encompassing orgasms. On a scale of 1-10, my natural orgasms rate a 12.
With my uncircumcised partner, I can relax and enjoy, knowing it will lead to orgasm.
After intercourse with my uncircumcised partner, I am much more relaxed, peaceful, fulfilled—brimming over with contentment. Bedtime sex often leaves me purring in my sleep and needing an early morning quickie before we get up. The afterglow can last for most of the day, making me horny for him that night.
If I ever needed motivation to continue restoring my foreskin, then Anonymous' description above is it! As I restore my foreskin, I notice that I am more like an intact man than the circumcised guy she describes and I used to be.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous....I couldn't have said it better myself! I concur with every single assessment!
ReplyDeleteTally...you are awesome for restoring...that is an amazing thing both for you and your partner!
One thing that is rarely mentioned in discussions such as this is a particular syndrome associated with the circumcised penis that can leave women unable to participate in sex after menopause. That is a condition called Female Arousal Disorder. Women who have this syndrome have pain at the vaginal sphincter when they try to engage in sex. That pain can be so severe that it can make sex impossible. At the least, it can substantially interfere with the sex act.
ReplyDeleteThe genesis of this disorder is believed to be abrasion from a partner with a circumcised penis. The skin on a penis that has not been circumcised will easily slide up and down the shaft. An uncircumcised man's shaft skin will easily slide all the way to the base of the penis and all the way out past the end of the penis. The circumcised man's shaft skin rarely slides more than a half inch if at all. This causes friction and abrasion at the vaginal opening.
It is thought by some researchers that this friction and abrasion causes cumulative trauma over years to the vaginal sphincter. This seems to be the only viable explanation for this condition as other factors are not significantly seen.
This cumulative damage leads to nerve damage in the mucosal skin. There is an operation used to address this that replaces the damaged skin with undamaged skin from another area of the body further adding to the evidence. The problem is that the surgery is only effective in relieving the symptoms in 40% of the cases.
This adds to the war on middle age sex resulting in a slam dunk. Two studies have found that circumcised men suffer impotency years before uncircumcised men starting just a few years after the normal age for menopause. There is anecdotal evidence to support this. Phizer Pharmaceutical reported that American men consume 54% of the world's productin of Viagra, Malaysian men (Muslim and circumcised) are the world's largest per capita consumers of Viagra and Isreael (Jewish and circumcised) is the world's leading counterfieter of Viagra. This leads to the perfect storm on couple's sex life after age 50.
Frank O'Hara
I have only ever had sex with my husband, who is circumcised. I have never had an orgasm during sex. I believe this is due to lack of clitoral stimulation. I am capable of having orgasms other ways, even with only clitoral stimulation.
ReplyDeleteAdditionally, my husband has trouble getting aroused sometimes. He cannot have sex more than two days (once a day) in a row without needing at least a day off to be able to do it again. He also often struggles with reaching orgasm. Sometimes even after it's been a while - when he'd normally be very quick - he has to really fight to finish. Even though this doesn't directly affect me (well, I guess not being able to do it because he can't does), it affects me emotionally. I don't like to see him feel less like a man because he's battled moments of impotence since the age of 22.
I dearly love my circumcised husband, but do not find sex very enjoyable. I feel terrible even writing this, and I would never want him to know that. It's just that I do not find the pounding to be pleasurable, but more of a discomfort feeling. We also use lots of lube. I am always waiting for it to end, although we have sex any time he wants, as I want him to be happy. The only time it is a better feeling is if I have just orgasmed, which is always clitoral via stimulation, never from intercourse. I told him about restoring, but so far, he is not willing to put forth the effort, which is a big commitment. I'm probably only one of many women who feel this way.
ReplyDelete@Frank,
ReplyDeleteDo you have a link for this as I will be sharing this:
"Phizer Pharmaceutical reported that American men consume 54% of the world's productin of Viagra, Malaysian men (Muslim and circumcised) are the world's largest per capita consumers of Viagra and Isreael (Jewish and circumcised) is the world's leading counterfieter of Viagra."
Take care
Dave Saving
To the two anons who posted about how unsatisfying circed sex is, I know precisely how you feel. I've only ever had sex with three men in my life, including my husband. I've NEVER had an orgasm via intercourse. I can orgasm through manual stimulation of my clitoris, but that's it. For years, I have wondered if there was something wrong with me. It wasn't until I was pregnant with my first son and started researching circumcision that I realized it wasn't me, it was my circumcised partners. When I first read about the gliding mechanism and how sex was meant to be between two intact partners, I cried. I love my husband dearly, but I don't like having sex with him. It is rarely pleasurable, usually uncomfortable, sometimes just neutral. It's rarely slow, gentle, usually too fast, too hard. I'm just praying my husband will agree to look into restoring at some point.
ReplyDeleteI'm in a similar place to anonymous above this comment. I don't believe I can bring it up with my husband (who is circumcised and pro circ) , even though I've have endured over 13 months of guilt and then self guided treatment for what was diagnosed by my physiotherapist as vaginismus, after my son was born. It was assumed the problem was me. That makes me sad, angry and helpless.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I have some degree of sexual dysfunction that I believe is related to his circumcision. I still enjoy sex, but at the end is always uncomfortable for me and rushed for him, because it simply takes so long and such intense thrusting to satisfy him. He has several brothers and their wives have all mentioned that that part of sex is just "too long" for us, and although we laugh it really isn't funny. It was not like this with my intact boyfriend. We didn't have to use artificial lubricant every time either, like I do with my husband. If we don't use lube sex can *hurt me* and that's really sad. When I was pregnant I knew that if I had a son (I had a daughter instead) that I could never do such a thing to a tiny newborn baby, but it's so much more than that. It will affect one of the most sacred aspects of not only his life, but the lives of his futures partners. Forever. I'm really sad my husband is circ'ed, but I know his mother did the best with the information she had at the time. I just can't believe that became the norm in our culture.
ReplyDeleteFor YEARS I thought there was something wrong with me! I had one boyfriend who was intact and never had these issues (dryness so bad it led to fear of intercourse) while I was with him. Unfortunately, I chalked it up to "being truly attracted to him." Which I now realize was complete bull.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, I am experiencing these things again with my husband. Now I just need to figure out how to bring it up with him.
This article made me cry. A woman should never be made to feel like she's broken when she's not. Thank you so much.
This is a bit of a difficult to share but I am really seeking some advice... My significant other is circumcised, I fought to leave my son intact and won! Since then I have become a full out intactivist... all my reading and research has lead me to be a bit disappointed in my sex life and the fact that I've never experienced a intact man. My SO's circumcision is way too tight and quite frankly, I think it looks gross. I'm finding it hard to enjoy myself and it has caused me to start turning down SO because of this. I dont know what kind of advice I'm looking for, I guess any tips on getting past it all, or words from people who understand what I'm saying.
ReplyDeleteI understand what you're saying completely. I don't think my husband's penis is gross but I do feel bad for him and feel like something is missing now that I know more about circumcision. For a long time I thought there was something wrong with me. I can't reach orgasm without a vibrator on my clitoris.
ReplyDeleteMy husband recently said he is open to restoring his foreskin! I've looked into the TLC Tugger and the CAT II but not sure where we should start. Money is an issue for us as well as his willingness to "be strapped into something uncomfortable" during the day or night. Any suggestions?